--- Juls <laughingpaws@...> wrote:
So how do you do it Ilana-Ora?
How do you do it so it's easy and joyful and a continuous swing
upwards?
Without making it a big contrast thing? I'd REALLY Love to
know how do it
this way instead of the way that I have been doing it, much
easier on the
nerves and those around me to be sure.
Will you share your secret? PLEASE?
LOVE YA- Juls
Dear Juls,
First of all, it is not a continuous swing upwards for me I
certainly have my down times. But I do have less an less of
those, and they get shorter and less intense. I certainly have my
share of contrast, but I usually do not make it into a big thing
any more because I prefer the alternative to regain my sense of
well being ASAP and use the contrast as a springboard forward. I
have noticed lately that each contrasting experience brought me
to a new level of clarity and my life got even better.
To my mind, the most important key to a joyful journey is to
really, really believe in a joyful journey.
I am happy for everyone to choose their own path, but there is no
question in my mind which path I want to be on: I want a path
that feels good. I want to feel that I am in control of my
journey and know that I am heading into greater and greater joy.
I want to take advantage of my incredible guidance system rather
than ignore it. I want to only go in my mind to those places
where my IB will join me.
When you ask a person what they want, they often answer I want
to be happy. I have decided that the next question ought to be:
how much do you want it? Because it turns out that many people
have other priorities such as to protect themselves from
disappointments, or to experience the full spectrum of emotions,
or to go with the flow
For me being happy is my highest priority, because I see
everything else as dependent on that. I really, really, really
want to be happy right now!! I am not willing to defer my
happiness until anything around me changes.
I can afford to have such a commitment to happiness because Abe
have offered us such powerful tools that in my experience make
the joyful path easily accessible. I am a great fan of turning
Negative Declarative Statements into asking, as it is a great way
to turn the energy around before it had a chance to build
momentum.
When I find myself in a negative place with some momentum going
in that direction, I usually find that I need to focus for a few
moments in order to regain my balance. It is easiest for me to
focus while writing, but if that is not an option I find that
talking out loud works as well. It can be a while before I have a
chance to do either, and during that time I just let myself go
with the flow rather than try to buck the current. At these
times, when I remember to hold off actions and words, things at
least do not get worse. When I do not remember to hold off, they
do tend to get worse. But I know that there is no risk because as
soon as I get myself together the flow will start to turn in my
favor
What I do when I have the time to focus is some version of a
focus wheel. I sometimes start by I think what bothered me is
because what I want is But the key is always to get on with
finding thoughts that feel good. I have never failed to get back
into a happy place while doing a focus wheel. I just make sure
that I start in a place that is general enough to not have any
resistance about it even where I am at the moment.
For example, at a recent episode I started with: I like it when
I feel good. I like it when I feel loving. I would like to find a
way to be comfortable when something like this happens These
few sentences turned out to be enough to change my energy then
and to keep me from blowing my top the next time something like
that did happen I used to have to go longer, and sometimes I
still do, but it did get easier to get back to a happy place once
I became used to being there.
I hope you find this helpful.
With Love,
Ilana-Ora
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