Hello Sisters! Kate specifically requested: - Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marsia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marsia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Re: Clean Talk Scenario - looking for support
Hey ladies.?
Gretchen wrote some amazing suggestions. She forgot to CC all. So here it is Incase any of you want an example.?
And... My landlord said "no need to worry" so I can keep the bed? I think so. Although I need to get clarity.?
Clean talk has been a great exercise. More please!!!!?
Data ? - 2 days ago, when you asked to remove the double bed for the new massage room rental and replace it with a single bed….
SUGGESTION:? Two days ago, you asked me to remove the double bed… etc.? [don’t need the word, “when”] ? Assessment ? - My assessment is that the double bed is part of this rental.?
SUGGESTION:? I believed that the double bed was part of the rental, and because of that belief, I was happy it would stay with us for the duration of our time here. [this holds the place as both an assessment and an emotion based on that assessment] ? Emotional Impact ? - I feel afraid because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.??
- I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.??
- I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the versatility of how raise our toddler.
- I feel angry? because changing the double bed for a single effects our family.
- I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the ease and flow of our family routines.
- I feel angry as because changing the double bed for a single alters? our easeful family routines.
- I feel angry as that bed bring me a lot of joy.?
- I feel angry as I use that bed often with Alaric
- I feel angry as everyone in this family uses that bed for ease, joy, and versatility.
- I feel angry as that bed provides, joy, ease, and versatility to our family.
SUGGESTION:? ,??????????????????????????????????????????????? I have a few difficult feelings come up when I imagine that the double bed will be moved out and replaced with a single.? The double contributes to the ease of our nighttime routine with Alaric, and having it brings a lot of joy to our family.? I know it’s just a bed, but with a toddler, the versatility of a Double bed has been extremely helpful.? Part of that is because it allows me connection time with him at night looking at the stars and looking out in the morning.? Admittedly, I feel kind of afraid, sad, and angry imagining it being replaced with a single. [this softens the emotional impact based on the data of the bed moving out] ? ? Notes - There are many reasons why I want that bed.? Do I state them all?? [usually no]
- Remove word easeful?
- Which word is better afraid / angry?? I feel both.? Or use both?
- Is “upset” a better word than “angry”?? [generally “upset” is a vague emotion word, but it can land softer than angry]
- Should I use the word “change” as opposed to “effect”
- The bed brings joy to our family and me specifically. I like looking at the stars with Alaric or out the window in the morning
? Request ? - My request is that the double bed remains in this rental for as long as we are the renters.
- My request is that the double bed remains in this rental until Alaric is completely sleeping independently.
SUGGESTION:? With all of this in mind, my request is that the double bed remain in the unit until Alaric is sleeping completely independently or until we move out.? I’m open to discussing other options, but I’d greatly appreciate if you’d consider keeping the double bed with us.? Thoughts? ? Here it is altogether: Two days ago, you asked me to remove the double bed for the new massage room rental and replace it with a single bed in our rental.? I believed that the double bed was part of our rental, and because of that belief, I was happy it would stay with us for the duration of our time here.? I have a few difficult feelings come up when I imagine that it will be moved out and replaced with a single.? The double contributes to the ease of our nighttime routine with Alaric, and having it brings a lot of joy to our family.? I know it’s just a bed, but with a toddler, the versatility of a Double bed has been extremely helpful.? Part of that is because it allows me connection time with him at night looking at the stars and looking out in the morning.? Admittedly, I feel kind of afraid, sad, and angry imagining it replaced with a single.? With all of this in mind, my request is that the double bed remain in the unit until Alaric is sleeping completely independently or until we move out.? I’m open to discussing this, but I’d greatly appreciate if you’d consider keeping the double bed with us.? Thoughts?
On Sat, Apr 9, 2022, 8:58 PM Abigail Jean < ajeanh@...> wrote: Hello Ladies. ?
I have a current scenario with my rental and landlord.? I experience lots of anxiety whenever there is conflict between people I care about / respect. ?(And I respect my landlord) I wrote up clean talk options in the categories that Gretchen presented. ?(Thank you!). I would value input as to if I am using Clean talk correctly, are there places I could improve the language, have more clarity, etc.?
I plan to write Carole (landlord) tomorrow or Monday so that I state my data, thoughts, emotions, requests before the conflict changes from her sending me verbal text messages to her taking an action.
You can find my brainstorm below in writing.? In addition I have attached a document with the same brainstorm.? If you have suggestions, feel free to respond or write on the document.? (Although it is pdf as I don't have word)
Thank you so much for the support so I can improve my communication skills!
BRAINSTORM
Data 2 days ago, when you asked to remove the double bed for the new massage room rental and replace it with a single bed….
Assessment My assessment is that the double bed is part of this rental.?
Emotional Impact I feel afraid because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.?? I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.?? I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the versatility of how raise our toddler. I feel angry? because changing the double bed for a single effects our family. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the ease and flow of our family routines. I feel angry as because changing the double bed for a single alters? our easeful family routines. I feel angry as that bed bring me a lot of joy.? I feel angry as I use that bed often with Alaric I feel angry as everyone in this family uses that bed for ease, joy, and versatility. I feel angry as that bed provides, joy, ease, and versatility to our family.
Notes There are many reasons why I want that bed.? Do I state them all? Remove word easeful? Which word is better afraid / angry?? I feel both.? Or use both? Is “upset” a better word than “angry”? Should I use the word “change” as opposed to “effect” The bed brings joy to our family and me specifically. I like looking at the stars with Alaric or out the window in the morning
Request My request is that the double bed remains in this rental for as long as we are the renters. My request is that the double bed remains in this rental until Alaric is completely sleeping independently.
Notes Conclusion What do you think? Is that possible?
Other Potential Data We rented this apartment starting in August and the double bed was here when we moved in. I don’t have a“rental agreement” as we made a verbal agreement on pricing once air bnb “time” ended.? No signed lease. ?Policy says…. Airbnb.?
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Re: SSR weekend (part 1 of 3)
I can do a groove goddes excercise if it works within the time schedule I'm available in.
"Met de vlinders verdwijnt ons geluk". Daarom is aktie nodig! "With the butterflies our happiness dissapears" Action is required!
Steun het project "de eenzame rups" en koop het prentenboek: "de eenzame rups-een zoektocht naar geluk" of bestel een print afgedrukt op materiaal? en grootte naar keuze!
Support the project "the lonely caterpillar" and buy the picturebook: "the lonely caterpillar-in search of happiness" or order a picture printed on background or size of your choice!
I am happy to do? ACTIVATRIX? Friday or Saturdayxo Matooka?
On Mon, Apr 11, 2022 at 7:33 PM Gretchen via <gretchenkainz= [email protected]> wrote: Hellooooo Sisters! ? We’re less than two weeks out.? To try and keep things clean, the weekend communication will be a three-part email (with one reminder a week out): ? - Part 1 (THIS EMAIL): logistics and cost
- Please respond with your role preferences (to THIS email NLT April 16)
- Part 2:? prep for the Heart Space Circle share
- No need to respond, AND please read and reflect for at least a few days prior to the weekend
- Part 3: prep and bring list for Saturday evening ritual
- This isn’t extensive, but it’s pretty specialized and should have its own thread (but no need to respond)
? Part 1 (THIS email): Schedule is attached.? (Please arrive a few mins early on Friday night if you’re able.? Zoom will open about 30 mins early.) ? COST:? Sliding scale of $25-$45.? You choose based on what’s financially comfortable for you.? Please pay Katie (preferably before the start of the weekend) via venmo or check: - VENMO: @Katie-Yellow
- Mailing address:? 1415 Dry Creek Rd; Ashland City, TN 37015
? ROLES: please send Noreen, Paige, and Gretchen your top three preferences NLT Saturday, April 16: - Titillating Time Tigress (for Friday check-in and Sunday check-out):
- Zoom Café Madame (to be on screen during at least one Lunch or Dinner):?
- Groove Goddess (lead some movement- with or without music)
- Tantalizing TECHtress (will help out if there are tech issues…must feel comfortable and solid with Zoom in particular)
- ACTIVATRIX (to lead us in a round or two or three of an activation of her choice at the beginning of each day)
? BREATHWORK prep:? These are to introduce you to Heather and her style.? We recognize they are kind of long in total, and if you’re able to listen/watch before the weekend, it will likely support you during the breathwork session.? Please at least watch the first one. 1. Intro: ? (21:40) 2. Demo_Circular Breath: ? (6:37) 3. Demo_Box Breath: ? ? (4:03) 4. Demo_Subtle Breath: ? (5:51) 5. Invitation to practice: ? (3:28) ? FINALLY- if you are attending via Zoom you received (or will receive) a package in the mail from Noreen.? ?? The small thing is because we love you.? The other two things are for Saturday’s evening ritual. ? ? ? ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five!
850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Re: SSR weekend (part 1 of 3)
I am happy to do? ACTIVATRIX? Friday or Saturdayxo Matooka?
On Mon, Apr 11, 2022 at 7:33 PM Gretchen via <gretchenkainz= [email protected]> wrote: Hellooooo Sisters! ? We’re less than two weeks out.? To try and keep things clean, the weekend communication will be a three-part email (with one reminder a week out): ? - Part 1 (THIS EMAIL): logistics and cost
- Please respond with your role preferences (to THIS email NLT April 16)
- Part 2:? prep for the Heart Space Circle share
- No need to respond, AND please read and reflect for at least a few days prior to the weekend
- Part 3: prep and bring list for Saturday evening ritual
- This isn’t extensive, but it’s pretty specialized and should have its own thread (but no need to respond)
? Part 1 (THIS email): Schedule is attached.? (Please arrive a few mins early on Friday night if you’re able.? Zoom will open about 30 mins early.) ? COST:? Sliding scale of $25-$45.? You choose based on what’s financially comfortable for you.? Please pay Katie (preferably before the start of the weekend) via venmo or check: - VENMO: @Katie-Yellow
- Mailing address:? 1415 Dry Creek Rd; Ashland City, TN 37015
? ROLES: please send Noreen, Paige, and Gretchen your top three preferences NLT Saturday, April 16: - Titillating Time Tigress (for Friday check-in and Sunday check-out):
- Zoom Café Madame (to be on screen during at least one Lunch or Dinner):?
- Groove Goddess (lead some movement- with or without music)
- Tantalizing TECHtress (will help out if there are tech issues…must feel comfortable and solid with Zoom in particular)
- ACTIVATRIX (to lead us in a round or two or three of an activation of her choice at the beginning of each day)
? BREATHWORK prep:? These are to introduce you to Heather and her style.? We recognize they are kind of long in total, and if you’re able to listen/watch before the weekend, it will likely support you during the breathwork session.? Please at least watch the first one. 1. Intro: ? (21:40) 2. Demo_Circular Breath: ? (6:37) 3. Demo_Box Breath: ? ? (4:03) 4. Demo_Subtle Breath: ? (5:51) 5. Invitation to practice: ? (3:28) ? FINALLY- if you are attending via Zoom you received (or will receive) a package in the mail from Noreen.? ?? The small thing is because we love you.? The other two things are for Saturday’s evening ritual. ? ? ? ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five!
850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Re: SSR weekend (part 3 of 3)
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On Apr 11, 2022, at 7:36 PM, Gretchen via groups.io <gretchenkainz@...> wrote:
? Part 3: prep and bring list for Saturday evening ritual (if you haven’t read Parts 1 and 2 yet, start there please): ? OKAY!? Saturday evening’s ritual (still in the mystery)…?? ? (blessings to ALisa for coining this thing called a “bring list” LOL) BRING LIST: - Computer/laptop or phone with speaker
- A private (and preferably) dark space
- A blanket to sit or lie on (pillow could be good, too)
- A separate blanket to fully cover body
- Contents of the package (that Noreen sent)
- Water bottle
- Fire proof bowl and lighter for sage-ing
? PREP: - Be able to name the First nations / Indigenous / Native people where you are located (can use this map if you don’t know: )?
- Come with an intention of healing:?
- what needs to be healed in you
- what would you like to be healed in how you do relationship
- what would you like healed with the SSR sisters
- A SNACK before, but not a heavy meal before
- Wear comfortable clothing (or naked!)
- A change of clothes afterwards (also comfortable)
- Have a light, already prepared meal to eat afterwards
? That covers it for the Saturday evening ritual! ? Yay! ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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SSR weekend (part 3 of 3)
Part 3: prep and bring list for Saturday evening ritual (if you haven’t read Parts 1 and 2 yet, start there please): ? OKAY!? Saturday evening’s ritual (still in the mystery)…?? ? (blessings to ALisa for coining this thing called a “bring list” LOL) BRING LIST: - Computer/laptop or phone with speaker
- A private (and preferably) dark space
- A blanket to sit or lie on (pillow could be good, too)
- A separate blanket to fully cover body
- Contents of the package (that Noreen sent)
- Water bottle
- Fire proof bowl and lighter for sage-ing
? PREP: - Be able to name the First nations / Indigenous / Native people where you are located (can use this map if you don’t know: )?
- Come with an intention of healing:?
- what needs to be healed in you
- what would you like to be healed in how you do relationship
- what would you like healed with the SSR sisters
- A SNACK before, but not a heavy meal before
- Wear comfortable clothing (or naked!)
- A change of clothes afterwards (also comfortable)
- Have a light, already prepared meal to eat afterwards
? That covers it for the Saturday evening ritual! ? Yay! ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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SSR weekend (part 2 of 3)
This email is Part 2 of 3 (if you haven’t read Part 1 yet, start there please):?? - prep for the Heart-Share Circle space
·???? No need to respond, AND please read and reflect at least a few days prior to the weekend ? At the end is information about the intentionality of the circle time (sent in a previous email also).? Please note: We won’t have a formal “lunch break” during this circle, so please take care of yourself and have snacks/food available.?? ? In preparation, we’re inviting you to reflect on the following questions.? It may be helpful to write or journal about your answers.? (That was helpful for us, anyway.)? Because we have limited time, we think it’s really important to come to the circle on Saturday having considered these.?? - What are your hopes / intentions for this circle time?? What would you like for yourself?
- What are some things you wish people/SSR sisters understood about you in relation to the past two years?? Some ideas to think/talk about:
- What’s been hardest / most painful for you?
- What has befuddled / confused / perplexed you?
- What are some emotions that you’ve experienced?
- What’s been good / the best part for you?
? There will also be guidelines for the circle that include speaking from our own experiences and not coming in with the intention to fix or change anything or anyone.? (More specifics about that on Saturday! ?) ? CLEAN TALK refresher:? Of course, there is no requirement for us to use clean talk during our circle share, but it might be helpful.? If you’d like a refresher, Gretchen created an 11-ish min video for us with the basics! ?
Info about the Circle Share (we sent this in late March): - Gretchen introduced the idea of it at our recent check-in call.? She called it a “covid convo” (which wasn’t accurate, but that’s what came in the moment); RayRay reframed it as an “elephant” convo.
·???? For our weekend, it will be a HEART-SHARE CIRCLE space (which doesn’t mean it will be all rainbows and roses… as we know, heart work can be hard work) ·??????? Specifically, this time will be an opportunity for all of us to share our truths (and be witnessed by our sisters) about how the last two years have been for us.?? ·??????? It will be an opportunity to speak of our own experiences, name any judgments that may have been getting in the way of connection to SSR women and/or others.?? ·??????? It will NOT be a conversation but a circle process with the intent to share and witness.? ·??????? From it, each of us can choose (or not) to lay down/let go of/move through/explore/heal whatever may be standing between each of us and whatever kind of connection is wanted with the SSR women.?
·???? We will move into that space very intentionally, and you will be given additional information as we get closer to the weekend.?? ·??????? In the meantime, please know that great care and love is going into the planning of this part of the weekend, especially.? We are doing our best to invite everyone in in a way that will work for them and the space. ·???? We are asking for curiosity and openness… and, again, there will be more info in the coming weeks. ·??????? If you are noticing anything coming up (fear, excitement, hesitancy, anger, etc. etc.), we invite you to be with those feels and see what you might learn from them.? It might even be helpful to take notes. ? THAT COVERS IT for this part 2 email. ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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SSR weekend (part 1 of 3)
Hellooooo Sisters! ? We’re less than two weeks out.? To try and keep things clean, the weekend communication will be a three-part email (with one reminder a week out): ? - Part 1 (THIS EMAIL): logistics and cost
- Please respond with your role preferences (to THIS email NLT April 16)
- Part 2:? prep for the Heart Space Circle share
- No need to respond, AND please read and reflect for at least a few days prior to the weekend
- Part 3: prep and bring list for Saturday evening ritual
- This isn’t extensive, but it’s pretty specialized and should have its own thread (but no need to respond)
? Part 1 (THIS email): Schedule is attached.? (Please arrive a few mins early on Friday night if you’re able.? Zoom will open about 30 mins early.) ? COST:? Sliding scale of $25-$45.? You choose based on what’s financially comfortable for you.? Please pay Katie (preferably before the start of the weekend) via venmo or check: - VENMO: @Katie-Yellow
- Mailing address:? 1415 Dry Creek Rd; Ashland City, TN 37015
? ROLES: please send Noreen, Paige, and Gretchen your top three preferences NLT Saturday, April 16: - Titillating Time Tigress (for Friday check-in and Sunday check-out):
- Zoom Café Madame (to be on screen during at least one Lunch or Dinner):?
- Groove Goddess (lead some movement- with or without music)
- Tantalizing TECHtress (will help out if there are tech issues…must feel comfortable and solid with Zoom in particular)
- ACTIVATRIX (to lead us in a round or two or three of an activation of her choice at the beginning of each day)
? BREATHWORK prep:? These are to introduce you to Heather and her style.? We recognize they are kind of long in total, and if you’re able to listen/watch before the weekend, it will likely support you during the breathwork session.? Please at least watch the first one. 1. Intro: ? (21:40) 2. Demo_Circular Breath: ? (6:37) 3. Demo_Box Breath: ? ? (4:03) 4. Demo_Subtle Breath: ? (5:51) 5. Invitation to practice: ? (3:28) ? FINALLY- if you are attending via Zoom you received (or will receive) a package in the mail from Noreen.? ?? The small thing is because we love you.? The other two things are for Saturday’s evening ritual. ? ? ? ? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Re: Clean Talk Scenario - looking for support
Hi Abigail, I am not super well versed in clean talk but it seems like you're getting the right idea.
I am thinking maybe when you are giving the reasons, you might say "it makes me afraid and angry for a number of reasons" and then start giving the reasons vs. repeating afraid and/or angry over and over?
Or possibly ranking all those and not saying all of them, but just your top five let's say? You could bring out others if it seems right in the moment.
Gretchen might say differently though. I think she is one of the most comfortable with clean talk.
Good luck!
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On Saturday, April 9th, 2022 at 9:58 PM, Abigail J <ajeanh@...> wrote:
Hello Ladies.
I have a current scenario with my rental and landlord. I experience lots of anxiety whenever there is conflict between people I care about / respect. (And I respect my landlord) I wrote up clean talk options in the categories that Gretchen presented. (Thank you!). I would value input as to if I am using Clean talk correctly, are there places I could improve the language, have more clarity, etc.
I plan to write Carole (landlord) tomorrow or Monday so that I state my data, thoughts, emotions, requests before the conflict changes from her sending me verbal text messages to her taking an action.
You can find my brainstorm below in writing. In addition I have attached a document with the same brainstorm. If you have suggestions, feel free to respond or write on the document. (Although it is pdf as I don't have word)
Thank you so much for the support so I can improve my communication skills!
BRAINSTORM
Data 2 days ago, when you asked to remove the double bed for the new massage room rental and replace it with a single bed….
Assessment My assessment is that the double bed is part of this rental.
Emotional Impact I feel afraid because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the versatility of how raise our toddler. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects our family. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the ease and flow of our family routines. I feel angry as because changing the double bed for a single alters our easeful family routines. I feel angry as that bed bring me a lot of joy. I feel angry as I use that bed often with Alaric I feel angry as everyone in this family uses that bed for ease, joy, and versatility. I feel angry as that bed provides, joy, ease, and versatility to our family.
Notes There are many reasons why I want that bed. Do I state them all? Remove word easeful? Which word is better afraid / angry? I feel both. Or use both? Is “upset” a better word than “angry”? Should I use the word “change” as opposed to “effect” The bed brings joy to our family and me specifically. I like looking at the stars with Alaric or out the window in the morning
Request My request is that the double bed remains in this rental for as long as we are the renters. My request is that the double bed remains in this rental until Alaric is completely sleeping independently.
Notes Conclusion What do you think? Is that possible?
Other Potential Data We rented this apartment starting in August and the double bed was here when we moved in. I don’t have a“rental agreement” as we made a verbal agreement on pricing once air bnb “time” ended. No signed lease. ?Policy says…. Airbnb.?
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Clean Talk Scenario - looking for support
Hello Ladies. ?
I have a current scenario with my rental and landlord.? I experience lots of anxiety whenever there is conflict between people I care about / respect. ?(And I respect my landlord) I wrote up clean talk options in the categories that Gretchen presented. ?(Thank you!). I would value input as to if I am using Clean talk correctly, are there places I could improve the language, have more clarity, etc.?
I plan to write Carole (landlord) tomorrow or Monday so that I state my data, thoughts, emotions, requests before the conflict changes from her sending me verbal text messages to her taking an action.
You can find my brainstorm below in writing.? In addition I have attached a document with the same brainstorm.? If you have suggestions, feel free to respond or write on the document.? (Although it is pdf as I don't have word)
Thank you so much for the support so I can improve my communication skills!
BRAINSTORM
Data 2 days ago, when you asked to remove the double bed for the new massage room rental and replace it with a single bed….
Assessment My assessment is that the double bed is part of this rental.?
Emotional Impact I feel afraid because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.?? I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the our nighttime routine.?? I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the versatility of how raise our toddler. I feel angry? because changing the double bed for a single effects our family. I feel angry because changing the double bed for a single effects the ease and flow of our family routines. I feel angry as because changing the double bed for a single alters? our easeful family routines. I feel angry as that bed bring me a lot of joy.? I feel angry as I use that bed often with Alaric I feel angry as everyone in this family uses that bed for ease, joy, and versatility. I feel angry as that bed provides, joy, ease, and versatility to our family.
Notes There are many reasons why I want that bed.? Do I state them all? Remove word easeful? Which word is better afraid / angry?? I feel both.? Or use both? Is “upset” a better word than “angry”? Should I use the word “change” as opposed to “effect” The bed brings joy to our family and me specifically. I like looking at the stars with Alaric or out the window in the morning
Request My request is that the double bed remains in this rental for as long as we are the renters. My request is that the double bed remains in this rental until Alaric is completely sleeping independently.
Notes Conclusion What do you think? Is that possible?
Other Potential Data We rented this apartment starting in August and the double bed was here when we moved in. I don’t have a“rental agreement” as we made a verbal agreement on pricing once air bnb “time” ended.? No signed lease. ?Policy says…. Airbnb.?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Thank you for all these wonderful reminders, Gretchypoo. So helpful! Love love love, Matooka
Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five!
850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Thank you for the reminder!
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On Apr 5, 2022, at 7:44 PM, Gretchen via groups.io <gretchenkainz@...> wrote:
? Hello Sisters! ? This is just a reminder so send some good lovin’ vibes to the sister in the subject line! The receiving sister is invited to receive the goodness coming her way from this group of powerful priestesses.? The way you can send the good vibes is basically any way you choose!? Here are a few ideas: - Pray for your sister
- Light a candle with her face in your mind’s eye while sending love
- Send her a text with words of blessings, wishes, goodness, a joke, some fun, a high-five, a smile…
- Go for a walk and energetically “tell” her what a gift she is
- Sing a love song to her spirit
Spend a minute focusing on just her in your heart and mind APRIL: - 6 ????? Kelly (this one actually isn’t random… this is Kell’s birthday, y’all!)
- 7 ????? Katie
- 8 ????? Noreen
- 9 ????? Jill
- 10 ??? RayRay?
- 11 ??? Meggie (this one is not random; this is Meggie’s birthday!)?
- 12 ??? Suzanne?
- 13 ??? Paige
- 14 ??? Marcia
- 15 ??? Kate Z
- 16 ??? Matooka
- 17 ??? Nathalie (this is also not random; this is Nathalie’s birthday!)
- 18 ??? Petra
- 19 ??? Abigail
- 20 ??? Chaya
- 21 ??? Gretchen
? ? Yay!? Life Rewards Action!? High-five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 she/her ?
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Jill