Hi John.
Sorry to hear you are still having trouble.? It may be my fault for not updating the pinout descriptions in the code comments - at work again so cannot easily check.
Lets start by making sure we are both working to the same schematic, and the same set up file for the display.
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See attached files.
Note the reset connection for the display is connected to the reset (EN) of the ESP32, and the display uses the HSPI pins on the ESP32.
Dave