Hello mastreet@...,
In reference to your comment:
è That sounds like helpful advice. I myself find it difficult
è responding to a person who has lost a child. My sister
è in law, lost her daughter to cancer, and she seemed to
è need to talk about her all the time. I think that that too
è is part of the grieving process. She too has passed on
è now, but I think that only another person who has gone
è through it, can understand it.
You know Martha, in Awaken from the Dream and in Gary's book they talk about the split off from Heaven, and at that moment when we realized what we had done ... we thought we destroyed God/heaven and at same experienced the overwhelming pain of being seemingly separated from the One.
I remember how I felt when I read Awaken from the Dream thinking? ... I thought to myself "my goodness that is the way I have felt all my life," but accordingly to therapists,? I thought it was because my mother died when I was little.? :-)
If you ever felt a glimpse of that pain, then you can understand the loss of a child, or understand when someone they have been with for many many years has transitioned.? The pain is undescribeable.? That is why the ego makes sure that it stays in the unconsciousness and when the pain surfaces makes sure that it is projected out side on something, someone or some event.
The ego specialty is specialness as you stated earlier, but one thing I got really cleary from Gary's book (the way the symbols keep repeating it) and one of the first principals ...? "There is no order of difficulty in miracles"?? there is only one problem and thus only one solution .. etc.,
I was able to make the connection while reading the book that my son's death is no different then when I get pissed off when a car cuts me off.? It may not be my experience ... but I understand it and can say it and then I ask for help to make it my experience.
It is very scary to according to the world "minimize" such an event.? But I have to or else I will never experience peace and one of the things my son emphasized to me was not to grieve too long, to move on with my life and I agreed with him.?
But it was a lot more difficult than I had imagined.? No matter how much pain I may have experienced at any given moment I also knew this pain was just the tip of the iceberg and if I tried to experience any more without help I would go crazy.? There were moments I wanted to end this existence ... but after being exposed to the Course .. I just chuckle to myself? ... go where?? all I am going to do is carry this pain with me to another imaginary place ... I realize the insanity of it all ... and then I say HELP!
And when I think that the pain that I went through is just glimpse of the pain of Sonship seemed to feel when the separation seemed to occur.
All I can say is eeeuuuuuuuuweeeeee .. I have a ways to go.
