Re: Will you please help?
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For teens, I really? loved Teenagers, A Natural History
https://www.bookdepository.com/Teenagers-A-Natural-History-David-Bainbridge/9781846271229?redirected=true&selectCurrency=AUD&w=AF45AU963Q6XRMA8VT66&gclid=CjwKCAjw1ICZBhAzEiwAFfvFhGGMop4CVm3miv2ArffKh8iteLVOQKYuzlwIvcQnMmjXPqirJj6nmRoCHscQAvD_BwE
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From: jodie aldridge via groups.io
Sent: Wednesday, 14 September 2022 6:14 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Will you please help?
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Hello?
Please could I have a recommendation for a good book to read on human development please ??
I read some when my son was little but would like to refresh for my 2nd child.?
Jodie?
On 11 Sep 2022, at 6:30 am, Sandra Dodd <Sandra@...> wrote:
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Karen James wrote: "He's still young.? He's still learning.? His prefrontal cortex (the decision making part of his brain) is still developing.? At this stage of his life he is influenced a lot on his amigdala (the emotional part of his
brain). Because they look so mature, sometimes we expect more from teenagers than they are capable of doing or giving yet.? Give him time.? Show him patience and grace.? Be generous and understanding and supportive.? These things will go a long way toward
helping him learn to make choices that consider other people, because he will come to have a deeper awareness of and confidence in being truly considered himself."
I'm repeating it because I want to say that any parent who chooses to unschool (any homeschooling, but especially unschooling) should have learned about human development somewhere along the way (before teen years, generally and ideally speaking).? YES to everything
Karen wrote, and I'm grateful that she took the time to share her thoughts, as her own teen has just reached the end of his teen years, or is about to.??
Expecting a teen to behave as he used to when he was 12, or 10, or 8, is a harmful expectation.? The voice of his mother, in his head, will serve him better if it is a sweet and kind one, and if his memory of you is of you being gentle and smiling.??
Let him take care of trees the way he wants to, maybe.? If the retaining wall fails, it can be repaired, but it might not fail, and those trees might be benefited by something he does that you wouldn't have done.?
If a parent is too controlling, the parent doesn't see how the child can learn, and the child can't freely make choices to learn from.??
I think the questions are asking us to help the mother control the son.? That's not what unschooling should be about.??
Learning.
Peace.
Relationships.
Those are the answers being offered, and the responses seem to?be? "Yeah, but..."
Sandra
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