Im going nuts. Just replaced the dang clutch, and the throwout bearing, and transfer external case and some gear repair inside the transfer case...?

When I depress the clutch pedal, going into 1st or R every time I have to wait at least 3 to 5 seconds for the flywheel or whatever to it is to stop spinning so it accepts the shifting without grinding.? EVERY. TIME. However if I first shift into 2nd and then into 1st, it accepts the shift w/o grinding or having to pause the 3 seconds. They played with the rpms, they played with clutch adjustments. To where now the clutch is set so as Im releasing the pedal there's nothing, nothing, nothing and then at the top of the release I got about an inch or 2 and ... woosh it suddenly engages.?

No problems shifting into 2 or 3rd, or back.

Any ideas anyone? Im getting desperate does anyone know old school transmision wizard in the Los Angeles area?

HELLLLPPP!