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Q&A: Why Jesus linked John with Mary at the Cross


 

G'day all,

While the U3A course R09 "What the Bible is about" is on hiatus, our discussion board is still available to discuss biblical issues. As we approach Mother's Day, a?question came up in the course of some emails that I'd like to share with you.?

Question

Why?did Jesus give custodianship of His mother, Mary, to his disciple John, instead of to his brother(s)?

One of the "throw-away" facts included in the New Testament that tends to pass without analysis is John 19:26-27 where Jesus, on the cusp of death on the Cross, directed the Apostle John, His (first) cousin, to take of His mother, Mary, despite the fact that Mary had at least four living sons per Matthew?13:55.? John, as the youngest of the Twelve, would likely have been younger than at least some, if not all, of Mary's sons.

The Roman Catholic Church doesn't have a problem with this since they declared Mary ever-virgin (this is a topic in itself) and assigned Jesus' half-brothers to a mother or mothers other than Mary, either a sister of Mary or an earlier wife or wives of Joseph. However, with their focus on sola scriptura (the Bible as the sole authority), the Protestant reformers recognized that scripture only required belief in the virgin birth, but was silent on perpetual virginity.? Some early reformers like Luther and Zwingli who had been Catholic priests held on to the idea of perpetual virginity, but Protestantism largely rejects it.

I'll address this question from the scriptural (Protestant) perspective.

John 19:26-27 states, "When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, 'Woman, behold your son!'??Then He said to the disciple, 'Behold your mother!' And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home."

English (KJV)

Strong's

Greek Root

Tense

mother

g3384

μ?τηρ
尘ē迟ē谤

1)????? a mother
2)????? metaphor. the source of something

behold

g2400

?δο?
idou

behold, see, lo

son!

g5207

υ???
huios

1)? ??a son
? ? ?d)????? in a wider sense, a descendant, one of the posterity of any one of,
? ? ? ? ? ?1)????? the children of Israel
? ? ? ? ? ?2)????? sons of Abraham
? ? ?e) ??used to describe one who depends on another or is his follower
? ? ? ? ? ?1)????? a pupil
3)? ? ?son of God
? ? ? b)? ??used to describe those who are born again (Lk. 20:36) and of angels and of Jesus Christ
? ? ? c)? ? ?of those whom God esteems as sons, whom he loves, protects and benefits above others
? ? ? ? ? ? 1)????? in the OT used of the Jews
? ? ? ? ? ? 2)????? in the NT of Christians
? ? ? ? ? ? 3)????? those whose character God, as a loving father, shapes by chastisements (Heb. 12:5-8)
? ? ? d) ?? those who revere God as their father, the pious worshippers of God, those who in character and life resemble God, those who are governed by the Spirit of God, repose the same calm and joyful trust in God that children do in their parents (Rom. 8:14, Gal. 3:26 ), and hereafter in the blessedness and glory of the life eternal will openly wear this dignity of the sons of God. A term used preeminently of Jesus Christ, as enjoying the supreme love of God, united to him in affectionate intimacy, privy to his saving councils, obedient to the Father's will in all his acts

Rationale

The majority of Protestant commentators suggest Jesus, Mary's first-born son, established the relationship re-alignments noted in John 19:26-27 because none of Mary’s other sons were Christians at the time.? As an aside, this is supported by the Bible Codes, where equidistant letter sequence (ELS) codes that underlay Isaiah 53 (a prophecy of His trial and crucifixion) include all names noted in the New Testament to be present at the crucifixion but exclude the names of His brethren James, Joses, Simon, and Judas (Jude) (Matthew 13:55).

Mary was already a widow; it is probable from reading the Gospels that Joseph was no longer living and that Jesus her firstborn had been her primary support.? Thus from the Cross Jesus was transferring His duty to maintain His Mother into the care of John, the only disciple still standing by Him (others would return later).? This was a tremendous honour to John, as he well knew being “the disciple whom Jesus loved.”? “Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. (Proverb 23:22)

In addition, Jesus’ brothers were not as yet believers and thus were not suitable for assuming Jesus’ role.? Furthermore, although at least James and Jude became believers after the Resurrection (see the Books of James and Jude and 2 John 1:4), James was to be murdered well before Mary’s death.? Witness the prophecy of Isaiah 51:18, “There is none to guide her among all the sons whom she hath brought forth; neither is there any that taketh her by the hand of all the sons that she hath brought up.”

In the end, Mary stayed in John’s house, first in Jerusalem and later in Ephesus, as may be observed in the Second Epistle of John, which is a loving letter from John to his “mother”, the Elect Lady in Ephesus.? “Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.” (2 John 1:3)? What comfort these words would have been to Mary, reminding her of God’s special gift to her those many years ago, but also reminding her of her duty to posterity.

While some speculate that Jesus knew that John would be the only disciple (or brother) to live longer than Mary, may I speculate that perhaps his caring role for Mary was the reason why he lived so long?? In brief, without Jesus’ act spelled out in John 19:26-27, the full New Testament Canon would not have been complete, and 2 John could not have been written.
Please enjoy your Mothers' Day 2022 this Sunday,

Blessings,

Ray
Ray Sarlin, Tutor U3A R09


 

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Hi Ray,
?
Thank you for continuing to “feed” us with gems from the Bible.
?
I’ve never considered the reason why Jesus chose John rather than his half-brothers, to take over the role of caring for his mother. As you so aptly pointed out, John was the only person who could do it. Like your surmise, I believe John was given a long life because he was faithful to Jesus’ charge to care for Mary. As long as she was alive, John would also be alive.
?
I was very moved by your email, and thank you for the time you give to us to expand such things.
Blessings to you and all,
Merlene
?

From: Ray via groups.io
Sent: Friday, May 6, 2022 1:51 PM
To: [email protected] ; Marian Plant ; Wayne Weiler
Subject: [b4uc] Q&A: Why Jesus linked John with Mary at the Cross
?
G'day all,

While the U3A course R09 "What the Bible is about" is on hiatus, our discussion board is still available to discuss biblical issues. As we approach Mother's Day, a question came up in the course of some emails that I'd like to share with you.

Question

Why did Jesus give custodianship of His mother, Mary, to his disciple John, instead of to his brother(s)?

One of the "throw-away" facts included in the New Testament that tends to pass without analysis is John 19:26-27 where Jesus, on the cusp of death on the Cross, directed the Apostle John, His (first) cousin, to take of His mother, Mary, despite the fact that Mary had at least four living sons per Matthew 13:55.? John, as the youngest of the Twelve, would likely have been younger than at least some, if not all, of Mary's sons.

The Roman Catholic Church doesn't have a problem with this since they declared Mary ever-virgin (this is a topic in itself) and assigned Jesus' half-brothers to a mother or mothers other than Mary, either a sister of Mary or an earlier wife or wives of Joseph. However, with their focus on sola scriptura (the Bible as the sole authority), the Protestant reformers recognized that scripture only required belief in the virgin birth, but was silent on perpetual virginity.? Some early reformers like Luther and Zwingli who had been Catholic priests held on to the idea of perpetual virginity, but Protestantism largely rejects it.

I'll address this question from the scriptural (Protestant) perspective.

John 19:26-27 states, "When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, 'Woman, behold your son!'? Then He said to the disciple, 'Behold your mother!' And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home."

English (KJV)

Strong's

Greek Root

Tense

mother

g3384

μ?τηρ
尘ē迟ē谤

1)????? a mother
2)????? metaphor. the source of something

behold

g2400

?δο?
idou

behold, see, lo

son!

g5207

υ???
huios

1)??? a son
???? d)????? in a wider sense, a descendant, one of the posterity of any one of,
?????????? 1)????? the children of Israel
?????????? 2)????? sons of Abraham
???? e)?? used to describe one who depends on another or is his follower
?????????? 1)????? a pupil
3)???? son of God
????? b)??? used to describe those who are born again (Lk. 20:36) and of angels and of Jesus Christ
????? c)???? of those whom God esteems as sons, whom he loves, protects and benefits above others
??????????? 1)????? in the OT used of the Jews
??????????? 2)????? in the NT of Christians
??????????? 3)????? those whose character God, as a loving father, shapes by chastisements (Heb. 12:5-8)
????? d)??? those who revere God as their father, the pious worshippers of God, those who in character and life resemble God, those who are governed by the Spirit of God, repose the same calm and joyful trust in God that children do in their parents (Rom. 8:14, Gal. 3:26 ), and hereafter in the blessedness and glory of the life eternal will openly wear this dignity of the sons of God. A term used preeminently of Jesus Christ, as enjoying the supreme love of God, united to him in affectionate intimacy, privy to his saving councils, obedient to the Father's will in all his acts

Rationale

The majority of Protestant commentators suggest Jesus, Mary's first-born son, established the relationship re-alignments noted in John 19:26-27 because none of Mary’s other sons were Christians at the time.? As an aside, this is supported by the Bible Codes, where equidistant letter sequence (ELS) codes that underlay Isaiah 53 (a prophecy of His trial and crucifixion) include all names noted in the New Testament to be present at the crucifixion but exclude the names of His brethren James, Joses, Simon, and Judas (Jude) (Matthew 13:55).

Mary was already a widow; it is probable from reading the Gospels that Joseph was no longer living and that Jesus her firstborn had been her primary support.? Thus from the Cross Jesus was transferring His duty to maintain His Mother into the care of John, the only disciple still standing by Him (others would return later).? This was a tremendous honour to John, as he well knew being “the disciple whom Jesus loved.”? “Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. (Proverb 23:22)

In addition, Jesus’ brothers were not as yet believers and thus were not suitable for assuming Jesus’ role.? Furthermore, although at least James and Jude became believers after the Resurrection (see the Books of James and Jude and 2 John 1:4), James was to be murdered well before Mary’s death.? Witness the prophecy of Isaiah 51:18, “There is none to guide her among all the sons whom she hath brought forth; neither is there any that taketh her by the hand of all the sons that she hath brought up.”

In the end, Mary stayed in John’s house, first in Jerusalem and later in Ephesus, as may be observed in the Second Epistle of John, which is a loving letter from John to his “mother”, the Elect Lady in Ephesus.? “Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.” (2 John 1:3)? What comfort these words would have been to Mary, reminding her of God’s special gift to her those many years ago, but also reminding her of her duty to posterity.

While some speculate that Jesus knew that John would be the only disciple (or brother) to live longer than Mary, may I speculate that perhaps his caring role for Mary was the reason why he lived so long?? In brief, without Jesus’ act spelled out in John 19:26-27, the full New Testament Canon would not have been complete, and 2 John could not have been written.
Please enjoy your Mothers' Day 2022 this Sunday,

Blessings,

Ray
Ray Sarlin, Tutor U3A R09


 

Hi Merlene,

Thanks for your feedback on the Mothers' Day email about Mary.?

In the many years that I've attended church, no one ever brought up how closely related the Galileans (including Jesus) were.? Knowing that can add a dimension or two to our scriptural understanding... if only to show us how much most people in our modern world have lost.? Perhaps there's a real lesson there for congregations that want to survive the coming hard(er) times.

Blessings,

Ray


On Tuesday, 10 May 2022, 03:40:16 pm AEST, Merlene <merlene@...> wrote:


Hi Ray,
?
Thank you for continuing to “feed” us with gems from the Bible.
?
I’ve never considered the reason why Jesus chose John rather than his half-brothers, to take over the role of caring for his mother. As you so aptly pointed out, John was the only person who could do it. Like your surmise, I believe John was given a long life because he was faithful to Jesus’ charge to care for Mary. As long as she was alive, John would also be alive.
?
I was very moved by your email, and thank you for the time you give to us to expand such things.
Blessings to you and all,
Merlene
?

From: Ray via groups.io
Sent: Friday, May 6, 2022 1:51 PM
To: [email protected] ; Marian Plant ; Wayne Weiler
Subject: [b4uc] Q&A: Why Jesus linked John with Mary at the Cross
?
G'day all,

While the U3A course R09 "What the Bible is about" is on hiatus, our discussion board is still available to discuss biblical issues. As we approach Mother's Day, a question came up in the course of some emails that I'd like to share with you.

Question

Why did Jesus give custodianship of His mother, Mary, to his disciple John, instead of to his brother(s)?

One of the "throw-away" facts included in the New Testament that tends to pass without analysis is John 19:26-27 where Jesus, on the cusp of death on the Cross, directed the Apostle John, His (first) cousin, to take of His mother, Mary, despite the fact that Mary had at least four living sons per Matthew 13:55.? John, as the youngest of the Twelve, would likely have been younger than at least some, if not all, of Mary's sons.

The Roman Catholic Church doesn't have a problem with this since they declared Mary ever-virgin (this is a topic in itself) and assigned Jesus' half-brothers to a mother or mothers other than Mary, either a sister of Mary or an earlier wife or wives of Joseph. However, with their focus on sola scriptura (the Bible as the sole authority), the Protestant reformers recognized that scripture only required belief in the virgin birth, but was silent on perpetual virginity.? Some early reformers like Luther and Zwingli who had been Catholic priests held on to the idea of perpetual virginity, but Protestantism largely rejects it.

I'll address this question from the scriptural (Protestant) perspective.

John 19:26-27 states, "When Jesus therefore saw His mother, and the disciple whom He loved standing by, He said to His mother, 'Woman, behold your son!'? Then He said to the disciple, 'Behold your mother!' And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home."

English (KJV)

Strong's

Greek Root

Tense

mother

g3384

μ?τηρ
尘ē迟ē谤

1)????? a mother
2)????? metaphor. the source of something

behold

g2400

?δο?
idou

behold, see, lo

son!

g5207

υ???
huios

1)??? a son
???? d)????? in a wider sense, a descendant, one of the posterity of any one of,
?????????? 1)????? the children of Israel
?????????? 2)????? sons of Abraham
???? e)?? used to describe one who depends on another or is his follower
?????????? 1)????? a pupil
3)???? son of God
????? b)??? used to describe those who are born again (Lk. 20:36) and of angels and of Jesus Christ
????? c)???? of those whom God esteems as sons, whom he loves, protects and benefits above others
??????????? 1)????? in the OT used of the Jews
??????????? 2)????? in the NT of Christians
??????????? 3)????? those whose character God, as a loving father, shapes by chastisements (Heb. 12:5-8)
????? d)??? those who revere God as their father, the pious worshippers of God, those who in character and life resemble God, those who are governed by the Spirit of God, repose the same calm and joyful trust in God that children do in their parents (Rom. 8:14, Gal. 3:26 ), and hereafter in the blessedness and glory of the life eternal will openly wear this dignity of the sons of God. A term used preeminently of Jesus Christ, as enjoying the supreme love of God, united to him in affectionate intimacy, privy to his saving councils, obedient to the Father's will in all his acts

Rationale

The majority of Protestant commentators suggest Jesus, Mary's first-born son, established the relationship re-alignments noted in John 19:26-27 because none of Mary’s other sons were Christians at the time.? As an aside, this is supported by the Bible Codes, where equidistant letter sequence (ELS) codes that underlay Isaiah 53 (a prophecy of His trial and crucifixion) include all names noted in the New Testament to be present at the crucifixion but exclude the names of His brethren James, Joses, Simon, and Judas (Jude) (Matthew 13:55).

Mary was already a widow; it is probable from reading the Gospels that Joseph was no longer living and that Jesus her firstborn had been her primary support.? Thus from the Cross Jesus was transferring His duty to maintain His Mother into the care of John, the only disciple still standing by Him (others would return later).? This was a tremendous honour to John, as he well knew being “the disciple whom Jesus loved.”? “Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old. (Proverb 23:22)

In addition, Jesus’ brothers were not as yet believers and thus were not suitable for assuming Jesus’ role.? Furthermore, although at least James and Jude became believers after the Resurrection (see the Books of James and Jude and 2 John 1:4), James was to be murdered well before Mary’s death.? Witness the prophecy of Isaiah 51:18, “There is none to guide her among all the sons whom she hath brought forth; neither is there any that taketh her by the hand of all the sons that she hath brought up.”

In the end, Mary stayed in John’s house, first in Jerusalem and later in Ephesus, as may be observed in the Second Epistle of John, which is a loving letter from John to his “mother”, the Elect Lady in Ephesus.? “Grace be with you, mercy, and peace, from God the Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ, the Son of the Father, in truth and love.” (2 John 1:3)? What comfort these words would have been to Mary, reminding her of God’s special gift to her those many years ago, but also reminding her of her duty to posterity.

While some speculate that Jesus knew that John would be the only disciple (or brother) to live longer than Mary, may I speculate that perhaps his caring role for Mary was the reason why he lived so long?? In brief, without Jesus’ act spelled out in John 19:26-27, the full New Testament Canon would not have been complete, and 2 John could not have been written.
Please enjoy your Mothers' Day 2022 this Sunday,

Blessings,

Ray
Ray Sarlin, Tutor U3A R09