Yes, hard decisions on coming way too soon for me. ?As long as Marc doesn’t become violent and can dress himself and bathe himself, he will remain here at home. ? He can still do things around here to help us both out — like mow the grass for example and he still remembers to take out the trash and other things so that’s good. ?You know how hard it can be with someone who is losing their mind. ?
Chris is trying to accept what is happening to his Dad. ? I think his blow up that one day was really good for him. ? He said a lot of things he probably shouldn’t have said but he needed to get them off his chest and did. ? He has even come with us to Doctor appts (well, one so far). We have a big one coming up and he is not to go to it per the therapist. ? ?She wants to talk to just the two of us first. ? Then, in June, we have another important appt at the VA. ? I am hoping by then, they will admit Marc has Dementia. ?This is so ridiculous! ? I need a good diagnosis and they really refuse to give us one. ? It’s all about money with them, of course. ? ?Anyway, Chris is beginning to accept that his Dad is sick and things that happened that he doesn’t like are caused by Marc’s dementia and not his REAL dad. ? Nothing is easy when it comes to Dementia that’s for sure.
We have the Alzheimer’s Association and they have a list of places where Marc can go for a day or people who can help. ? ?I just have to start checking in with them and see what’s what. Marc is very much a loner so not sure how he’d take to going to a day care place. ? Doubt there’s any right around us but probably some across town. ? Harder to do then but still doable on some days. ? I’ll have to play it by ear I guess as to when I think he’s ready to be around others who have the same thing. ? I don’t want to scare him and a to think I’m ready to put him elsewhere. ?It is really going to be hard to do this but know it may come to this and he knows it as well.
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Sounds like you will have some hard decisions to make soon.
Are there any support groups out there for caretakers/family of the memory impaired?
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I know there are not as many as there should be....
Probably even less now with the government stealing $$ from them.
There were none here....we got one going when we were developing the dementia/Alzheimers unit.
It helped a lot of people.
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Is Chris supportive?? Sometimes it is very hard for kids to accept what is going on.
And not just with dementia.?
Shawn went through a bunch of emotions when Rick was diagnosed with cancer.? I was very glad that he already had a therapist
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? Glad you are going to live, Donna! ? ?It is really super that you are doing as well as you are but I wouldn’t have expected anything else from you! ? ? Gaining a few lbs isn’t a big deal as I know you will lose them as well. ?I do the same thing. ? Gain then lose. ? It’s a roller coaster and that’s ok. ? Stress is my trigger as well. ? ? Marc and Chris both are triggers…
Marc is really getting worse. ?I told him to get his iMac out of the car and he couldn’t find it. My SUV isn’t THAT big. ? Anyway, I had to go out and get it. ? Then I told him we’d go to Spectrum to droop off the boxes. ? We get there and he has no clue why we are there even. ?I had to explain it all again. ? ? Then he asked if Chris was coming home tonight. ? ?Nope, maybe on Sunday. ?Just now, he asked me to check my calendar and tell him if there’s a birthday?on the 16th of this month. ? He was thinking maybe his brother. ? ?Nope. ?His brother’s on the 14th. ? ?The 16th would have been my Mom’s…. ? His confusion gets worse and worse and worse. ? I just told him I will pick up his laptop and the hard drives tomorrow after DAR. ?He won’t remember where I am going much less anything else. ? ?He knows he’s worsening which is so hard on him and makes me even more sad than I am already. ? I try to make light of it all for his sake.
Life is full of blessings and challenges which I believe make us stronger. ? We do whatever we have to do.
Hugs & Smiles,
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My weather app says 34° but it feel a lot warmer.? I only wore a sweatshirt when I went out.
Maybe because it is very sunny out....
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Had my yearly physical this morning.....sorry guys but it looks like I am going to live
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<happy.gif> Had a ton of labs done....she took 4 vials of blood and of course a urine.
She put in a request for me to see the spine doctor for the sciatica.?
I gained 15 pounds in the past 6 months but that is fine.? It is from stress eating.....
Stress is my trigger and with everything going on in this country....
There is a lot of stress.
She wasn't worried about it though since I do usually play with 10 pounds or so
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Now I am waiting for my prescriptions to be ready so I can go pick them up.?
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