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Intellectually I understand that food, excercise, etc can't effect
my weight but the flip side of that is that changing what I eat, how
much I excercise my body, etc won't change my weight either and I
Know that that isn't true. So, how can I change my belief, a belief
held for some 20 odd years at least, to match my desire on this one
topic?

Hi, Juls ... It seems to me that now that you are asking, the
Universe is giving you opportunities to change those beliefs.

And, why is it that once I change my views or start to I get a whole lot

crap coming in to my life that just re-affirms my previous belief when I
didn't get that crap before I started messing with it?

I think it's because most of those beliefs you hold are dwelling in
the subterranean depths of your subconscious mind. You have lived
with them for so long that they feel normal and native to you. So
you don't question them. It's like breathing or having two arms or
whatever. It just is.

So when you CHALLENGE those beliefs, it's like you become aware of
them for the first time. They become REALLY obvious to you. You're
like, Oh my God, have I been BREATHING all this time?!

As I said above, I think they are really OPPORTUNITIES direct from
the Universe. Everytime you get one, receive it joyously (as
joyously as you can -- I know it feels like getting a lump of coal in
your stocking) and say, "Thank you, Universe! Another opportunity to
change an unwanted belief!" Then go into your mind and rescript the
whole encounter.

I was just "playing" (not working) through Lynn Grabhorn's Playbook
and came across a meditation re: this subject (p. 90). She said,
"Whatever you want to remove in life, love it."

Okay so maybe you can't just force yourself to gush with love for the
Strip Club Guy, but maybe you could start with something softer and
then work up to love. For example, I feel compassion for him ... I
think to myself, gee, he's got this wonderful woman at home, his
life-partner, the woman he said vows to at the altar, and there she
is at home, basking in the glow and the joy of pregnancy, carrying
the baby they made together. Such a glorious time in both of their
lives. So intimate, so profound, so joyous. And all he can see is
her body looking fat? How sad.

Then I think, hmmm, maybe their relationship isn't really that close.
Maybe they are not that intimate. Maybe he's searching, trying to
find that. Or maybe he doesn't even have a clue about intimacy and
all he looks at is bodies. Either way, how SAD.

So then I kinda feel sorry for the guy. I know at some level there
has got to be a part of him that wants that connection with her, that
knows that she is not Just a Body, that craves intimacy, that wants
to share ALL of her, not just her body but her emotions and her
spirit and her dreams and her laughter ... suddenly instead of
seeing him as a sexist womanizing monster, I view him as lonely,
lost, seeking ... and I care about him.

I know, it feels like a REAL stretch (because I know EXACTLY what you
mean when you say you were repulsed on So Many Levels -- because I
was right there with you!), but as you continue thinking in this vein
you can see how you could end up feeling love for the guy.

Another way to approach this is to do as Lynn suggests and just work
up a feeling of basking in love, and invite your "problem" --
whatever it may be, could be just the concept of Women as Objects --
and then surround it with that high-vibe feeling of love.

As far as the "well-padded" comment, again, an opportunity. I'd play
with it and rescript it in my mind. I always imagine myself sitting
down at the movie theater, nibbling on popcorn, and on the blank
screen I play it out the way I would have liked it to go. Like see
him being AMAZED at how light and airy you feel -- see him picking
you up with one arm, throwing you over his shoulder and bounding
around the restaurant like a football player celebrating a
much-needed touchdown.

Ann Marie

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