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Hi Kathy,

I'm interested in what you are doing here. I like the way you are
thinking about the people you are working with and what you are intending to
communicate to them. This is very refreshing and much needed in working
with those who have experienced downsizing. I'm sharing my experience
below. Please don't take it overly seriously if your intuition tells you
differently. Of course my experience is impacted by my beliefs, so you will
certainly have different beliefs and experiences.

There are 2 thoughts crossing my mind, depending on the area in
which you work and the openness of the people you'll be encountering to
anything that seems a little "weird." I'm in the Midwest where lots of
people are still frightened by anything that seems "weird" so I, personally,
have chosen to do more nonverbal communication of these principles and
choose the most ordinary words and phrases when I talk about the ideas. A
concept from The Course In Miracles (also Abe) that I use regularly is that
healing/love, once offered, is always received. It is always received, but
only when it is not threatening or fearful to the person receiving it
(sometimes that's quite a while after it is offered, maybe even when people
transition to nonphysical and release resistance, I think.)

So I try to approach things using words and phrases that would not be
fearful -or seem strange- to the group I'm working with. I do a great deal
of my work nonverbally at home and silently in the spaces that occur during
interaction and I only try to teach the more powerful Abe-type things if
asked or if people respond positively to the little clues I throw out in
very normal (or nearly normal) language. When they do respond positively, I
try to tune in to my intuition about how much I can extend that will be
received as "love" (per Course in Miracles language) and how much might
bring about fear. For me, this works very well and I have what I would once
have considered "miracles" happen in a large percentage of my total
interactions and certainly in almost every group training I do. (Abe talks
about this too--doing relationship work when you're not with the person and
doing something that's not controversial when you're with them.) I bring
this up because I think people who have been downsized or whatever are often
tuned to a fear vibration and, to connect with them, small steps are needed;
large steps may be like Abe used to talk about when the merry-go-round is
too fast.

One other thought. Abe says when we pick up one end of a stick, the
other end comes too. (Recent tape San Antonio, I believe, and lots of
others as well.) Another way they say this is when we focus on one desired
belief or goal, the beliefs we hold that contradict this intention come to
the surface. For this reason lots of us on the list have had the experience
of picking up one end of the stick on several subjects at once (taking BIG
steps) and then getting the other end too with considerable strain. A more
recommended way seems to be to take smaller steps and get a little more
stable change. This may apply to the people you are working with, again
because they have been a bit "pulled down" by observing the things that go
with layoffs. Some of the items below, including my suggestions, may be very
large steps for them and, if so, you may get feedback that they are getting
hold of both ends of the stick at once. (Of course you may find that good,
as, during training they become aware of the beliefs they hold that are not
helping them meet their goals, however my experience is that this goes
better small steps at a time rather than large ones as group resistance/fear
can be a big vortex.)

I have chosen to work with people who, by nature, are conservative
because I love other aspects of their nature. I'm aware that my approach
also is conservative and so you may not want to take it too seriously if
your nature is different. I have seen less dramatic changes work better,
but, to be fair, I'm probably not comparing to more dramatic approaches by
practiced deliberate creators! And, of course, I see evidence of what I
expect so my experience is just that---my experience! :)

Having said all that, I didn't do that with my suggestions here; rather
I followed the pattern you have been working with, making a couple of
suggestions.

I applaud your thinking. Hope my post in no way slows your vibration.
That's definitely not my intent.


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