Abe Now, 4/16/25, part 2, 9:13 ¨C Give Up
Q: Hi Abraham. I have a very good subject, I think. Before I met my wife, I had 2 relationships that did not work so well at the end. And there was contrast. Huge contrast. And that made my relationship with my wife, I think. So I created, through contrast, my wife. So that's a perfect example of what you talk about. So I was thinking right now, the body topic and money topic is the same. I had money problems and body problems. So I created the perfect body, and lots of money. So it must be that simple, right?
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So I was thinking, when I had no girlfriend for example, before I met my wife, I was not wanting it¡ Okay, I was wanting it, but I wasn¡¯t looking for it. I wasn¡¯t waiting for it. So now it can happen on the money and body topic - to wait for it, to look for it, and slow it down, right? So, what can we do to not slow it down, to not look for it, and check for it, and wait for it, so it can come easily?
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A: We're really appreciating your examples. And this is an easy one to answer. And by that we mean easy for you to hear. They're all easy for us to answer. But the part that we are looking for ease is in your ability to hear. And you will hear this, because you just said it to us.
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So you said, you had two relationships that were not so good. And they caused you to focus on the unwanted end of the stick. Especially in the end, you said. And so, activating that end of the stick, the other end of the stick was activated also, which is the end of the stick that your inner being calibrated to. So, your new relationship with your wife, just as you said, was already underway. One created the other. Yes, exactly right.
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So then, as you explained that you're wanting physical conditions and financial things to be the other end of the stick for you, you said the answer, right in the middle of your video presentation. You said, ¡°I wasn't looking. I wasn't looking for my wife.¡± Well, what were you doing, in the interim between relationships and launching those rockets of desires, or presenting the other end of the stick for your inner being to give attention to?
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What were you doing while your inner being was giving undivided attention to everything that your inner being knew that you wanted, because of the relationships that you had already lived? In the absence of this and that, your inner being knew you wanted this. In the presence of this and that, your inner being knew you wanted something different. And of course, there were positive aspects of those relationships also, that your inner being also knew that you wanted.
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And so, what were you doing while your inner being was doing that? You were satisfied with what is. You weren't desperate for it. You weren't defending. You weren't pushing against what had gone wrong with the others. You were happy with what is, and eager for more.
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And so, you particularly, since you are the one who has presented these examples to us, you are going to be able to, as you feel for it¡ Just feel what that feels like, when you know what you don't want, but you're no longer going to rail against what you don't want. You're gonna just give it a minute. You¡¯re just gonna give it a minute.
Jerry told a powerful experience to Esther on many occasions, even before they met us. A relationship finally ending, failing. One that he really cared about. Children involved. Lots of trying. Not getting it to where it needed to be. And he received a telephone call. Bad news about the relationship. He went outside in Spokane, Washington, in the winter, while it was snowing. And just looked up, let the snow fall on his face. And said, right out loud, ¡°I give up.¡±
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But he wasn't giving up relationships. Esther was in his future. He didn't know it. He wasn't giving up what that relationship and many others had helped him to create. He was giving up the not having of it. He was giving up the battle. He was giving up the struggle.
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And that's what you discovered with your story. You, for a little while, had just given up on relationships. Not going to try anymore for a while. But the key in that¡ You're not giving up your desire when you feel like that. You're giving up the resistance that is preventing your desire.
