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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
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Day 140 ¨C Fact or Hearsay
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For a statement to be excluded from the realm of rechilus and be classified instead as constructive, several conditions are necessary.
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Condition #1:
Most important is that one ascertain that the information is fully accurate. This involves both verification of the facts as well as a clear understanding of the situation (as was discussed regarding conveying negative information for a constructive purpose).
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The commandment, ¡°Do not stand aside while your fellow¡¯s blood is being shed¡± (Vayikra 19:16), obligates us to report constructive information if our knowledge of it is firsthand. Should one choose to speak of an alleged occurrence that he did not personally
witness in order to save his fellow Jew from possible harm, it must be clearly stated that the information is based on hearsay and is not to be accepted as fact.
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Without Rule or Regulation
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A primary cause of speaking loshon hora is that people consider matters of speech as without rule or regulation. Tragically, many do not even consider speaking loshon hora a sin. Such blatant disregard for this severe prohibition weakens the resolve of those
who might otherwise be cautious with their words.
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The following parable is a fitting response to the above situation:
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A sizable portion of a city¡¯s inhabitants contracted a dreaded disease. All the city¡¯s doctors despaired of curing the stricken. One day, a world-renowned physician appeared who was known for his ability to restore the seriously ill to their original health.
The illness that had swept through the city was viewed as incurable, and thus many doubted that even this doctor could save them. One sick man, however, hurried to the doctor¡¯s lodgings at the first opportunity. ¡°Where are you rushing?¡¯¡¯ one of his friends
asked. ¡°No one else seems to be in a hurry to see this doctor.¡¯¡¯
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¡°Foolish man,¡¯¡¯ the patient replied. ¡°A wise person understands that when one¡¯s life is at stake, even the most remote possibility of a cure must be pursued. In this case, the possibility is not at all remote. This doctor has earned himself a reputation as
being able to heal when no one else can. He has cured people who were at death¡¯s door. Should I neglect to seek his expertise because so many fools ignore this opportunity for salvation?¡¯¡¯
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If the above argument is true regarding physical health, how much more so does it apply regarding spiritual health. King David declared, ¡°Go, O sons, heed me ... Which man desires life, who loves days of seeing good? Guard your tongue from evil, and your lips
from speaking deceit¡± (Tehillim 34:12-14). Who is a greater healer of the spirit than King David, of blessed memory? One who ignores David¡¯s advice will remain spiritually ill eternally, and will suffer retribution in this world as well, as explained above.
Surely, then, one should pay no heed to those who make light of this most severe sin.
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Keep reading Day 141 the lesson for Shabbos
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Day 141 ¨C Thorough Understanding???????????
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Condition #2:
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Even when one has personally witnessed a situation, he must avoid hastily concluding that one party has harmed, or is about to harm, another. Often, it is impossible to fully understand the attitude and behavior of one person towards another without a thorough
knowledge of their relationship until this point. What appears to be a sinister plot might actually be a plan of self defense. Exposing the ¡°plotter¡± in such a case might leave the real victim vulnerable and defenseless.
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Negativity
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Yet another primary cause of speaking loshon hora is? negativity,
as it is written? ¡°And you spoke very negatively in your tents and said ¡®Because of Hashem¡¯s hatred for us did He take us out of [the land of Egypt]¡¯
(Devarim 1:27)¡±. There are people who are wont to complain and find fault at every opportunity, to criticize the ways and words of their fellow even when, in fact, he acts toward others with sincerity and has not caused them the slightest bit
of harm. Such people never give others the benefit of the doubt; they assume every unintentional wrong to be deliberate, and are certain that it was done with malice. Whoever is afflicted with this terrible trait will speak loshon hora
regularly, for he will view whatever others say or do as intended against himself.
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One who seeks to rid himself of this destructive trait should contemplate its various ill effects; through such reflection, he will ultimately succeed in viewing others in a favorable light.
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Har Nof father and husband needs a kidney
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Today's Inspiration - Shavua tov!
A New Order
Rabbi Eleazar commented on the verse (Genesis 12:1): "'Get thee out of thy country' - do not hesitate to leave your country because there resides in it famous persons. 'And out of thy brithplace' - out of the place where a spirit of breeding aids in the cultivation of intellectual people. 'And from thy father's house' - from the place you are respected as a member of a noble family. But go 'unto the land which I will show you' - to found there a center of culture, learning and nobility, by your own labors."
Source: Or Yesharim
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Day 139 ¨C Nothing to be Gained??????????
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In a situation where a person has been caused damage, it is forbidden to inform him of the perpetrator¡¯s identity unless there is a reasonable chance that this will serve a constructive purpose. The fact that one personally observed
an improper act does not automatically justify informing the victim. If restitution seems unlikely and there is no possibility that the victim will unsuspectingly be vulnerable to further harm, nothing positive will be accomplished by telling the victim who
was responsible; to reveal the perpetrator¡¯s identity is to speak rechilus.
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Within Everyone¡¯s Reach
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Any Jew who reflects upon his ways regularly, and resolves to scrupulously refrain from speaking the forbidden, will surely succeed in attaining the quality of shmiras haloshon. As our Sages teach, one who seeks to purify himself is granted Heavenly assistance
(Shabbos 104a). They further state that if a person sincerely strives to be a tzaddik (righteous individual), then Hashem will assign him an angel who will treat him as a tzaddik; and if he will sincerely strive to be a chassid (exceedingly righteous individual),
then Hashem will assign him an angel who will treat him as a chassid (Tanna D¡¯vei Eliyahu Zuta ch. 3).
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The Talmud qualifies the statement, ¡°Everyone is [guilty of speaking] loshon hora¡± (Bava Basra 165a) by saying that this refers not to actual loshon hora, but to avak loshon hara (the dust of loshon hara); that is, statements which can lead to loshon hora being
spoken or from which negative information can be inferred.1 Moreover, Maharsha (ibid.) comments that ¡°everyone¡± refers only to a person who is not careful in matters of speech, and speaks whatever comes to mind. Such a person will surely be guilty of speaking
avak loshon hora. The Sages did not, Heaven forfend, mean that it is impossible for anyone to be free of this sin. With knowledge of the relevant laws and proper zealousness, any Jew can acquire the golden quality of shmiras haloshon.
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1. As an example, it is forbidden to praise someone in the presence of his enemies, as his enemies will probably respond by voicing their criticism of him.
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Inspirational Videos of the Aliyah Flight
Hi Everyone!
I posted on my website the videos of the aliyah flight that took place on Wednesday.
The page also has videos of past flights and other inspirational videos
Enjoy!
Please share. Thank you!
Shabbat Shalom,
Jacob Richman
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Today's Inspiration - Shabbat shalom!
Twice As Long a Time
Rabbi Yerachmiel said: "There is a proverb in the Talmud (Megillah 18): 'Words are worth a selah; silence is worth two.' Selah means a shekel or a rock. If one must reprove a man whose heart is hard as a rock, he should first think over in silence how to influence him for twice as long a time."
Source: Vayakhel Shelomoh
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Real estate donation to charity?
Shalom Does anyone know if there exists a service by which a worthy cause can request to receive real estate or a vehicle that someone wants to donate to charity?
Thanks if you have any suggestions.?
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We need help with Tefillot to live in a home that has enough space for our work from home as well as my elderly mother?to live with me. We need help for Tefillah that?Hashem bless?our efforts so that I can have the parnassa to take care of my mother through?her retirement.? We need help with Tefillah for a home that is clean with no mold. Our current apartment has mold and it is affecting our health. Landlord is refusing to clean it and out income has dropped here so we have not been able to move out.? We need help to be freed from this place.?
We need an apartment with good neighbours and good community.?
Please can you add us to your Tefillah list, it's urgent.
Many thanks
Shoshanah bas Rachel Chanah Rachel Chanah bas Esther Eliyahu ben Devorah Gitta
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The Lord Guards Us
The Tzechiver Rabbi commented on the verse in Numbers 6:24: "The Lord shall make you prosper and guard you." "Oftentimes," he said, "prosperity brings evil results in its train, and therefore the priests bless us, to the end that we may enjoy prosperity and avoid its resultant evil through the Lord's guardianship over us."
Source: Hasidic Anthology
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Day 138 ¨C Constructive Intent?????????????
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People who speak rechilus usually have some motive in mind which they consider a positive one. The Torah¡¯s view, however, is that unless the motive is clearly constructive, the speaker is doing nothing more than gossipmongering
and his words are strictly forbidden.
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The most common constructive motive that would permit relating such information is to forewarn a person of someone else¡¯s intent to harm him so that the person can protect himself; to inform a person that someone is presently harming him, so that he can put
an end to the situation; or tell a person that someone has already harmed him, so that he can seek restitution for the damage (if it is monetary) or at least prevent any further damage.
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In Man¡¯s Hands
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God has made man upright, but they sought many intrigues (Koheles 7:29).
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The Holy One, Blessed is He, Who is upright and righteous, created man in His image so that he too would be upright and righteous. One may ask: If so, then why did God create the evil inclination, as it is written, ¡°The imagery of man¡¯s heart is evil from his
youth¡± (Bereishis 8:21)? If God Himself refers to this inclination as ¡°evil,¡¯¡¯ then who can possibly transform it into something good?
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God responds: ¡°It is you who has made it evil! As a child, you did not sin ¡ª it is when you matured that you sinned! There are many items in this world more rigid and bitter than the evil inclination, yet you make them sweet. There is nothing more bitter then
turmusin, yet you diligently cook it seven times until it turns sweet ... surely then, you can do the same with the evil inclination that is given over into your hands¡± (Midrash Tanchuma, Bereishis 7).
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The intent of the above Midrash is clear. Hashem has given man the ability to subdue his evil inclination, so that it can be utilized in accomplishing his spiritual goals, as it is written, ¡°... yet you can conquer it [the evil inclination]¡¯¡¯ (Bereishis 4:7).
It is man alone, through his ways and deeds, who determines who will be the victor in this crucial struggle.
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Welcome Home to the New Olim and Photos
Hi Everyone!
Congratulations and welcome home to the 225 new olim that
made aliyah to Israel from North America. The NBN aliyah charter
flight arrived in Israel this morning, Wednesday - August 17.
I took 183 photos of this historic and exciting event and
I posted them online at:
I also uploaded the photos to Facebook for name tagging.
The Facebook album address is:
If you have a Facebook account and you are in the photos or
you see someone you know, please feel free to name tag the photos.
Please share the links. Thank you!
May the aliyah from all over the world grow and bring
more Jews back to their homeland, Eretz Yisrael.
Have a great day,
Jacob Richman
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A Genuine Miracle
The Lizensker commented on the expression: "Show a miracle for yourselves" (Exodus 7:9). He said: "When a magician performs his acts on the stage, they are magical in the eyes of the audience. The magician himself, however, knows them to be merely tricks. But when the man of God is commanded to perform a miracle, he himself is greatly astonished at the wonder. The Lord intended to say: 'Pharaoh will invite you to demonstrate a miracle that will be a marvel even in your own eyes, unlike the magical tricks of his court magicians.'"
Source: Esser Tzachtzachoth
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Day 137 ¨C Constructive Speech?
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As in the case of loshon hora, the prohibition of rechilus involves meaningless or destructive gossip only. Reporting to a person concerning what someone else said or did against him l¡¯toeles, for a constructive purpose, is not
considered speaking rechilus and may, in fact, be considered a mitzvah.
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However, a clear understanding of the conditions which make such reporting permissible, complemented by a generous dose of objectivity, are absolute prerequisites for conveying such information.
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Despair
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Another primary reason why people speak loshon hora is despair, meaning that they despair of being able to live by the Torah¡¯s laws of proper speech. There are those who convince themselves that anyone who interacts with others in normal business and social
relations cannot possibly live by these laws. To support this contention, they cite the Talmudic statement that ¡°everyone is guilty of loshon hora¡± (Bava Basra 165a).? Of course, they are grossly mistaken.
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It is a known axiom of Jewish belief that Hashem does not make excessive demands of His creations. If the Torah places a certain obligation upon us, then surely its fulfillment is within our reach. Would adherence to the laws of shmiras haloshon be an inordinately
difficult achievement, then it would be optional, a matter for the exceedingly righteous who strive to perfect themselves in ways that others never attempt. In fact, to refrain from speaking loshon hora is required by the Torah, and involves numerous commandments.
Obviously, the Creator has endowed every Jewish soul with the ability to observe these laws.
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¡°A God of faith without iniquity¡± (Devarim 32:4) ¡ª God created man to be righteous, not wicked (Sifre ad loc.). This means that Hashem endowed each Jew with the ability to observe all of His commandments, for if not, it would be unfair to hold him accountable
for their transgression.
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Women's Wednesday Learning
WOMEN'S?WEDNESDAY?LEARNING
A zoom meeting is scheduled. Chaya Lagumsky 11:00 AM Jerusalem.........almost ELUL!
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Meeting ID: 869 4512 0809
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