Silence and Secrecy

Said the Bershider: "Two things I learned from my Master during my last visit to him: 'The less one talks, the nearer he is to holiness'; and 'Only that good deed is valuable of which no one knows."

Source: Midrash Pinchas

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM ? Day 155 – Lawyers and Therapists????? The commandment, Do not stand aside while your fellow’s blood is being shed (Vayikra?19:16), presents a major dilemma for the professional whose effectiveness, reputation and livelihood rest on the confidence placed in him by his clientele. Often, a client will reveal to his lawyer or therapist information that is being withheld from someone unjustly. ??????????????????????????????????? Whenever possible, a therapist must convince his client that he has a moral obligation to divulge such information to the proper party. Where appropriate, the client should be made to understand that despite the consequences, he will experience a sense of relief after having revealed the information. Moreover, by being honest and open in his personal life, one is able to develop a more positive self-image. ? Should the client persist in his refusal to divulge such information to the proper party, the lawyer or therapist may be faced with the painful choice of either allowing a destructive relationship to materialize, or possibly jeopardizing his livelihood and reputation. Consultation with a competent halachic authority is a must in such situations. This would also apply to a physician who is aware that his chronically ill patient is seeking to marry. When bringing such matters before a halachic authority, one should not mention the names of the parties involved unless absolutely necessary. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? The Blessing and the Curse ? The serpent was cursed, “... upon your belly you shall go, and dust shall you eat all the days of your life” (Bereishis?3:14). Similarly, the gossipmonger is punished with poverty, as stated in Sefer HaKaneh. ? I am truly amazed by the fact that people who regularly speak evil of others nevertheless do not hesitate to request blessings and segulos (auspicious omens) from tzaddikim for success in earning a livelihood. Do they expect a blessing to outweigh the strength of their sinful ways? The Torah states, “Accursed is one who strikes his fellow stealthily” (Devarim 27:24), which the Sages interpret as a curse upon one who speaks loshon hora. This curse was uttered in the presence of the entire Jewish people, who collectively answered “Amen” to its pronouncement. Can the blessing of even a tzaddik outweigh the power of this curse? ? Would such a person seek my advice for material blessing, I would tell him to be exceedingly careful to avoid the sin of loshon hora. In this way, he will merit the blessing, “Blessed is one who does not strike his fellow stealthily” (see Sotah 32b). Additionally, he should avoid any form of robbery, usury, or any other act that might result in another’s monetary loss. Such zealousness will surely bring blessing to one’s endeavors. Dedications and Sponsorships?????? Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call?845-352-3505?#113?or email?lozeri@...?to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities.

The Deceiving Cloak

The Tzupenester Rabbi was informed that a certain man was renowned for his piety. He remarked: "Piety that is renowned is a cloak, the cloth of which is pride; it is lined with anger, and sewn with the threads of melancholy."

Source: Niflaoth Israel

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM ? Day 153 – Exaggerations ? The rule that slander cannot be justified, even for a constructive purpose, would seem to be without exception. The Chofetz Chaim, however, speculates that if one cannot bring about a given constructive result without exaggerating, then it may be acceptable. The case he cites is where one is attempting to dissolve a friendship between two children, one of whom is a bad influence upon the other. If the victim will not be influenced to end the relationship unless the evils of his friend are exaggerated, this may be permissible. ? The guidelines for such an exemption are very sensitive and one cannot rely upon it without prior consultation with a competent halachic authority. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? Sanctity upon Sanctity ? “Do not contaminate yourselves through them lest you become contaminated through them. For I am Hashem your God — you are to sanctify yourselves and you shall become holy, for I am holy” (Vayikra 11:43-44). ? In commenting on the above, the Sages state: ? “If a person contaminates himself a little, they contaminate him a great deal; [if he contaminates himself] below, they contaminate him Above; [if he contaminates himself] in this world, they contaminate him in the World to Come. [Conversely,] if a person sanctifies himself a little, they sanctify him a great deal; [if he sanctifies himself] below, they sanctify him Above; [if he sanctifies himself] in this world, they sanctify him in the World to Come” (Yoma 39a). ? Zohar states that when a person utters forbidden speech a ruach hatumah, spirit of impurity, is manifest upon his words. Spiritual forces of destruction then take this spirit of impurity and use it to contaminate words of Torah and prayer that this person has uttered. Thus, if a person contaminates himself a little, they contaminate him a great deal. ? Conversely, Hashem, Whose loving-kindness is boundless, seeks to uplift us with an abundant flow of kedushah, sanctity. He calls to each and every Jew, as it were, “Open for me an aperture like the eye of a needle and I will open for you an opening like that of a hallway” (Shir HaShirim Rabbah 5:3). When a Jew overcomes his evil inclination and fulfills the Divine will, a spirit of sanctity is drawn upon his soul. If a person sanctifies himself a little, they sanctify him a great deal. ? Dedications and Sponsorships?????? Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call?845-352-3505?#113?or email?lozeri@...?to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities.

The Surgeon and the Rabbi

Said the "Yud": "In the same way that a surgeon may shed a man's blood in order to heal his body, a leader may shame a sinner even in public in order to cure his soul. And just as a surgeon may not operate when he knows it will not avail the sick patient, the leader may not shame a sinner when he knows that his rebuke will accomplish no good."

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Source: Tiffereth ha-Yehudi

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM ? Day 152 – When Rebuke is not Required ? We have seen that at times reproof may be counterproductive and is therefore out of place (See Days 45, 72, 143). There are several other factors which must be considered when determining whether or not it is necessary to approach an individual privately before speaking against him. ? In a case where an individual has regularly violated a given commandment, and means are being sought to encourage his repentance and to prevent others from following in his ways, the need for reproof as a first step is obvious. There is no justification for publicizing a person’s negative behavior if a meaningful discussion with him could convince him to change his ways. Even if it is obvious that the person will not respond to rebuke, failure to approach him directly before speaking about him could be misconstrued by others as insincere chanufah, flattery – an approach where the speaker deliberately exhibits tolerance in the perpetrator’s presence to gain his favor, while speaking negatively of him behind his back (See Day 58). ??????????????????????? If, however, the person being discussed has harmed someone, and the purpose of publicizing his actions is to correct the situation, one need not fear suspicions of insincerity. In such a case, rebuke would not be a prerequisite unless there is reason to believe it will achieve results. ? In the case of a prospective business or marriage partnership, where certain aspects of the subject’s history cast doubt on the correctness of the proposed relationship, rebuke would not affect matters and is therefore unnecessary. Even if the person would pledge to mend his ways, the other party would have to be warned of the possibility that he may return to his previous mode of behavior. However, one should attempt to encourage the person to inform the other party of his past, thus lessening the need for involvement of a third party. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? Torah Study vs. Loshon Hora ? The Talmud states (Arachin 15b): “R’ Chama bar Chanina said: If one has spoken loshon hora, how can he rectify his sin? If he is a Torah scholar, he should toil in Torah study, as it is written, ‘A healing for the tongue is a tree of life’ (Mishlei 15:4). Torah is the ‘tree of life,’ as it is written (ibid.?3:18), ‘It is a tree of life to all who grasp it.’ ” ? “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (ibid.?18:21). Evil speech can deny one the eternal bliss of the Next World. One who seeks to heal his tongue of this terrible malady should partake of the tree of life that is Torah. At the same time, he must be on guard to avoid repeating past sins. ? This can be likened to a person who is being treated for food poisoning. It is not enough to take the necessary medicines; one must also be careful to avoid eating more contaminated food. ? The Talmud further states that immersion in Torah study is itself a preventive measure against speaking loshon hora. As Scripture states, “For man was born to toil” (Iyov 5:7). The Talmud (Sanhedrin 99b) understands “toil” as a reference to speech, specifically the speech of Torah study. The Talmud is teaching us that man’s tongue differs from his other limbs in a very important way. Use of man’s other limbs requires energy. If man is lazy, his limbs will not be put to maximum use. Such is not the case with the tongue. Man need not overcome any innate laziness to engage in conversation. To the contrary, he is naturally bent toward speech and it is to refrain from speech which requires effort. Thus do the Sages state that “man was born to toil” refers to the toil of speech. ? It is for the toil of Torah study that man was born. However, man has free choice to decide what the nature of his speech will be. If he will not use his natural inclination toward speech for the study of Torah, then inevitably he will speak other matters and will transgress the laws of forbidden speech. ? Dedications and Sponsorships?????? Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call?845-352-3505?#113?or email?lozeri@...?to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities.

The Generous Physician

Said the Alexanderer Rabbi: "We find in the Midrash the expression that courtesy preceded Torah (Vayikra Rabba 9:3). We should love the Lrod not because we were so commanded in the Torah, but as a matter of courtesy and appreciaiton. If a physician not only cured a poor patient, but also donated to him a sum of money, would not the sick man feel everlasting love for the generous friend? The Lord gives us life, and the means of maintaining it, and our love for HIm need not be dictated by the Law alone.

Source: Siach Sarfei Kodesh

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Philosophy and Science

The Bratslaver taught:
1. The chief goal of human understanding should be to comprehend the nature of Divinity.
2. General philosophy suggests understanding that has fallen to a lower plane.
3. Into the brain cells utilized by secular sciences gather and unite all passions and evil traits.
4. Philosophy may become dangerous when the development of the mind it encourages is not accompanied by a similar degree of self-improvement through the medium of good practice.

Source: Likkutei Eitzoth Hashalem