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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Love Your Fellow Jew ? Fulfillment of the mitzvah to judge one’s fellow favorably and development of the quality of shmiras haloshon both hinge on the fulfillment of “You shall love your fellow as yourself” (Vayikra?19:18). If one truly loves his fellow Jew, surely he will not speak negatively of him; to the contrary, he will seek any possible merit for his actions, as he would for himself. ? If one were to commit an act which appeared improper, and he were to learn that his action was being talked about by others, surely he would fervently hope that someone would speak up in his defense and explain that, for whatever reason, he was not at fault. This is exactly what one should do when someone else’s behavior comes under scrutiny. ? Moreover, to love one’s fellow as oneself is to help him avoid situations which would result in his suffering shame or criticism. ? Let us suppose that one finds himself for an extended period of time in a city whose customs are foreign to him. He would seek out a loyal friend in that city who could familiarize him with local customs and inform him privately when his behavior might evoke negative feelings among the city’s inhabitants. In this way, he would be forewarned of anything which could possibly cause him distress or embarrassment. One should act toward his fellow in exactly this manner. If one sees another Jew doing that which could ultimately lead to his distress or embarrassment, he is obligated to warn him of this. |
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开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Meriting Divine Favor ? However, if Hashem will judge the person with compassion and seek to find him meritorious, the sum of his good deeds will remain intact. Moreover, if the person will merit the full measure of Hashem’s Attribute of Compassion, then the sum of his sins will be diminished, for many of them will be found to have been carried out unwillfully or will be attributed to some outside factor for which the sinner will not be held responsible. ? In summation: Heaven has infinite ways through which to find an individual meritorious. Through such consideration, the individual’s good deeds will outweigh his sins, thus granting him the eternal status of a tzaddik. ? The way in which Heaven judges an individual is reflective of the way in which that individual acts toward his fellow on this earth. If it is his way to judge others favorably, then Heaven will judge him favorably. However, if it is his way to view others critically and to express his views to others, then the Heavenly angels will speak of him in the same fashion. ? Thus, one must always bear in mind that at the moment when he expresses a judgment of his fellow’s actions, he is determining the way in which he himself will be judged by the Heavenly Court. ? |
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开云体育Judge Others Favorably? The Torah states:”With righteousness shall you judge your fellow” (Vayikra?19:15), which our Sages interpret as a commandment to give one’s fellow the benefit of the doubt (Shevuos 30a). This precept is among those “whose fruit one enjoys in this world and whose principal reward is preserved for the World to Come” (Shabbos 127a). Development of this trait is crucial for perfecting the quality of Shmiras haloshon. ? To give one’s fellow the benefit of the doubt is to decide in one’s mind that someone who is said to have committed a misdeed did so either unwillfully, out of ignorance, or correctly (i.e. that, in fact, a sin has not been committed). When the report does not lend itself to any of the above interpretations, one should consider the possibility that the speaker added or omitted details which completely alter the nature of the report. ? To judge others favorably is also to bear in mind the teaching: ”Do not judge your fellow until you have reached his place” (Avos 2:5). ? The more one accustoms himself to judge others favorably, the less he will transgress the sin of loshon hora. |
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开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Silencing the Gossipmongers ? It is a proven fact that to restrain oneself from speaking and listening to loshon hora is difficult for only the first few weeks. As others come to realize that an individual will not speak or listen to loshon hora, mockery or other forbidden speech, they will refrain from relating such talk to him, and will peddle their ”wares” elsewhere. They will come to understand that such talk does not raise their esteem in this man’s eyes; to the contrary, he considers them nothing more than gossipmongers and scorners. He will hardly have to guard himself from hearing loshon hora, for the gossipmongers themselves will avoid telling their stories in his presence, lest he belittle their words before others who are present. ? What is needed is an initial firm resolve to acquire this sacred quality. Regarding such spiritual striving do our Sages say, ”One who reflects upon his ways in this world merits and sees salvation from the Holy One, Blessed is He” (Moed Katan 5a). |
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Step-by-Step ? One who seeks to attain the quality of shmiras haloshon should use the very opposite approach of the gossiper. The gossiper makes it his habit to sit among groups involved in conversation, in the hope that he will hear some bit of information that he can ridicule or spread to others. The gossiper is forever in search of ”the latest news” in his town, so that he will have no lack of material to relate all day and night. ? The quality of shmiras haloshon should be attained gradually. The first step is to accustom oneself to avoid groups involved in idle conversation and to train oneself not to inquire about the latest gossip. One should train himself, little by little, until he reaches the point where he does not even want to be informed of any gossip. With the passage of time, Hashem will help him so that shmiras haloshon will become a part of his very nature. He will find it incredible that others can transgress the sin of speaking loshon hora, which to him has become something repulsive, like anything else which the Torah prohibits. |
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开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Choose Your Company ? One should avoid association with a given group unless he knows that its members are careful to avoid forbidden speech. If circumstances demand such association, one should limit it to a minimum, and maintain silence whenever possible. Even one sinner can ruin an entire group and make it necessary to avoid being in its company. ? Sefer Rosh HaGivah writes: ? Be alert, my son, regarding that which King Shlomo said: ”In the ears of a fool do not speak, lest he disparage the wisdom of your words” (Mishlei 23:9). Beware of a gathering of one hundred men among whom is found even one scoffer or fool, and certainly if [one of the fools] is a wise man in his own eyes, for he is the quintessential fool ...1 Strengthen yourself to sit in silence at such a gathering, do not discuss anything at all. Even if you will speak all sorts of wisdom, they [the scoffers and fools] will best you and grant you disgrace, as it is written,”Iniquity appears and disgrace follows” (ibid. 11:2). ? If you wish to converse [at such a gathering] with a man like yourself, be careful that your words not reach their [the scoffers’] ears. Thus does Scripture advise:”In the ears of a fool do not speak,’’ rather than, ”Do not speak with a fool.’’ ?
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Non-Kosher Conversation ? If one begins speaking with Reuven concerning Shimon and in the course of conversation becomes aware that Reuven bears Shimon ill will, he should either bring the conversation to an end or divert it to some other subject. Similarly, if one begins to speak and suddenly realizes that his own words are leading toward loshon hora, he should muster his spiritual strength and abruptly change the subject — in the same way that he would spit out the food he was chewing were he to become aware that it was non-kosher. If this will cause him discomfort or embarrassment, he should bear in mind the Sages’ words: ”Better to be considered a fool all one’s days [in this world], and not be considered wicked even for a moment before the Omnipresent” (Mishnah Ediyos 5:6). ? As already mentioned, the restriction against discussing an individual with that person’s adversary applies only when one feels himself unqualified to make peace between the two. However, when one can play the role of peacemaker, it is a mitzvah to listen to each party’s grievances in order to settle their feud. |
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开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? A Matter of Life and Death ? By exercising verbal restraint, one is saved from many sins: loshon hora, flattery, mockery and lying. He is also saved from verbal attack. There are numerous inestimable benefits of developing the quality of silence. ? People confide their private matters to a person who is known to guard his tongue, for he can be trusted to keep such information to himself. ? A wise man once said: “When I hear someone speak evil of me, I remain silent, for I fear that would I respond in kind, I would then hear abuses that are worse than the previous ones.’’ Whenever a person is verbally attacked and responds in kind, the result, invariably, is worse verbal attack. ? “Death and life are in the tongue’s power” (Mishlei?18:21). The tongue can cause harm in a way that the sword cannot. The sword can kill only through direct contact with its victim, while the tongue can bring about the ruination of someone who is miles away. Man was created with two eyes, two ears, two nostrils, but only one mouth, to indicate that he is obligated to limit his speech, for transgression through speech can occur quite easily, and with far-reaching consequences. |
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开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Best of All ? Shimon his [Rabban Gamliel’s] son says: “All my days I have been raised among the Sages and I found nothing better for oneself than silence” (Avos?1:17). ? R’ Shimon is, in effect, saying: “I was reared among the Sages and had the opportunity to glean from all their precious, sacred qualities. And of all those qualities, the art of silence is most outstanding.’’ ? Alternatively, R’ Shimon may have meant the following: The Sages were the wisest of men and surely did not engage in pointless conversation. Nevertheless, there was nothing, aside from speaking words of Torah, which they found more beneficial to themselves than silence. ? R’ Shimon was precise in saying: “and I found nothing better for oneself ...” Man’s corporeal existence in this world makes it virtually impossible for even the purest of souls to ensure that his every utterance is without flaw. This is why silence is so desirable. ? If such was true of the generation of R’ Shimon, whose Sages were accustomed to speaking only words of true wisdom, then what of ourselves, whose minds are preoccupied with matters devoid of substance and meaning? If one’s mouth will not be restrained by the harness of silence, then invariably it will speak in the way that it has been accustomed since one’s youth, and the loss will outweigh the gain many times over. |
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Shiur 5pm This Thursday: When the Going Gets Tough the Tough Turn To Hashem
Shiur not to be missed given by Rabbi Chayim Soloveichik. Details below and the source sheet is attached. Ohr Shalom is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting. Topic:?When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Turn To Hashem Time: Jun 10, 2021, 17:00 JerusalemJoin Zoom Meeting Meeting ID: 898 3516 6300 Passcode: 168989 One tap mobile +97239786688,,89835166300#,,,,*168989# Israel +972553301762,,89835166300#,,,,*168989# Israel Dial by your location ? ? ? ? +972 3 978 6688 Israel ? ? ? ? +972 55 330 1762 Israel Meeting ID: 898 3516 6300 Passcode: 168989 |
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Study the Laws ? There is another meaning to the description of the art of silence as a craft. One who seeks to become a craftsman must study and train until he has mastered the skills of a given craft. There is no other way to become a true expert at one’s trade. ? With regard to speech, one might be inclined to think: “Why must I study the laws of shmiras haloshon in all their fine details? I will simply train myself to avoid conversation. That way, I will surely not transgress!’’ This is a mistake, for not always is silence desirable. In fact, there are even times when the halachah requires that one relate negative information about a given individual! Therefore, one must study and know well the laws of speech in all their details, so that he will truly master the art of silence. ? The Sages were very exacting in stating, “Which craft should man pursue in this world?’’ For one might mistakenly think: “It has been my way for many years to be careful in avoiding forbidden speech. I have more experience in this ‘craft’ than a real craftsman has in his particular expertise! Shmiras haloshon is by now second nature to me; there is no longer any need for vigilance.’’ ? To preclude this false notion, the Sages state: “Which craft should man pursue in this world?’’ to indicate that all man’s days in this world he must be alert to the pitfalls of forbidden speech. |
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
开云体育SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON? Debt of Gratitude ? We can suggest another explanation of R’ Yitzchak’s teaching: “Which craft should man pursue in this world? He should make himself like a mute.’’ ? Suppose a person suddenly suffers a loss of speech. All the city’s doctors are summoned to suggest a cure, but all fail. Finally, a renowned specialist is brought in from another city. He succeeds in curing the patient and refuses any offer of payment for his services. Imagine the love and gratitude which the patient would feel toward the doctor! His gratitude would be readily apparent; he would run to do the doctor’s every bidding. For the patient to speak a negative word about the doctor would be unthinkable. ? Hashem has given man something which He has not given any other earthly creature — a speaking soul through which he can study Torah and perform other mitzvos, thus earning for himself eternal reward. By the strict measure of justice, a person who has used his tongue hundreds of times to speak the forbidden should awaken one morning to find that he has lost his power of speech. However, Hashem, Whose compassion is boundless and Who is slow to anger, continues to grant this priceless gift as He awaits the person’s repentance. ? How can such a person persist in speaking loshon hora and other forms of evil speech? Is this how one expresses gratitude to the One Above? ? Which craft should man pursue in this world? He should make himself like a mute. A person who has been guilty in the past of speaking the forbidden should forever bear in mind that it is only through the kindness of Hashem that he has not awakened one morning to find himself a mute. Through such reflection, one will forever feel indebted to Hashem for His unceasing kindness and will surely refrain from forbidden speech |
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