What you said about processing my own anger in an outward way so that she can see how to do it- that is a great point! Here everyone around her are internal processors and she probably just thinks we don't feel what she feels.
You all ask such wonderful questions; this really helps me to see it from different perspectives. Before I found unschooling, I read a lot of Magda Gerber/RIE parenting. Which is great compared to punitive parenting, but I don't know what to do in certain situations.
I.E. if she is going after her brother hitting at him, I don't see a way to keep him safe without him having to leave (which isn't fair to him) or to restrain her so she can't hit. It doesn't feel right restraining her even though my touch is as gentle as possible. You all have given me great things to try. Proactive observation and connection.
My sweet DS has wonderful patience with his sister, but I see it wearing thin in a way that is causing him to avoid her. I feel sad about this. There have been rare occasions where he has retaliated physically and that has always ended in (unprompted) apologies and hugs.
Any thoughts on how to help him express his frustration to her??
Thank you all!
