I'm still looking for these analogies to treating kids as we would treat an adult friend, or partner.? ?I should collect them somewhere. :-)
Maya L. wrote this:
"One from Joyce that has been a continual compass is "how would I feel about my marriage if my husband said that to me or treated me this way [that I am about to do/say to my kids]?" If the answer isn't?wonderful and close, then don't do it. That one almost always clears the un-thoughtful, junk behavior out, haha.?"
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That was from the middle of this larger paragraph:
"I just am so grateful.? We all have so much fun together.? I did not know how to do any of this, or be the person who could be their mother in this way, before I found you all.? Sandra, Joyce, Pam, Deb, Alex, Diana, Rue, Schuyler, many others.? There have been so many points of learning for me and changing old thought patterns. One from Joyce that has been a continual compass is "how would I feel about my marriage if my husband said that to me or treated me this way [that I am about to do/say to my kids]?" If the answer isn't?wonderful and close, then don't do it. That one almost always clears the un-thoughtful, junk behavior out, haha. My daughter said recently, "I'm so glad I don't have to fight with my mom the way [her friend] does. They seem so unhappy."? WOW.? I mean, we DO fight, usually about space because we live in a very small house and can get on each others nerves.? But its okay, we work it out. "
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...which is part of this larger post in 2016:
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