Holly¡¯s telling me a story about a younger friend, early 20s, who dropped out of high school (or was booted). He¡¯s a friend of her boyrfiend. She was telling me he was smart, but had asked her the dumbest question.
When she said she had never gone to school, he said ¡°How did you learn to talk?¡±
So Holly said he wasn¡¯t attached to that question, but it was the first thing that popped into his head, and then they talked about more sensible aspects of learning. :-)
And she figures he has had no reason to know or think much about child development.:-)
I thought I¡¯d share it as an amusement.
Before this, Holly¡¯s best bad example was having been at a free-lunch gathering in a park when she was 11 or so, and a kid she was hanging out with, in a group, asking her if she didn¡¯t go to school, how did she make friends? Holly had reached out, shook her hand, and said ¡°Hi! I¡¯m Holly.¡±
The girl looked at her blankly, Holly said. She didn¡¯t get it.
So what kinds of questions have you heard about ¡°but if you didn¡¯t go to school¡¡±? I think many of the questions come from a moment of sort of mental white-out¡ªthe shock of first thoughts about something that has the potential to undo the person¡¯s whole world, so let¡¯s don¡¯t judge them too harshly. It¡¯s not usually the sort of question someone has thought of for a week in preparation for the conversation. :-)
Sandra
Sandra Dodd