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The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!!
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On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything. I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything.
I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Jacqui,?
Hugs. It’s never OK to lose those we love. And it sounds like things went as well as they ever do. Grief will come when it needs to. ?Really big hugs!
One of the things I treasure about this group is the unconditional support. ?It’s yours now.
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On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Big hugs to you Jacqui. Losing a parent is hard no matter how many blessings there are and how much gratitude you have. Good luck with the dogs too.? XoNilda? On Dec 8, 2019, at 5:02 AM, "Connie@..." <Connie@...> wrote:
? Jacqui, Do NOT be embarrassed here of all places. ?We are here to help even if that is only to offer hugs. ?Lots of good advice has flowed through this group over the years, including from you! ?When you need an ear or shoulder, we are here. ?
So very glad Marguerite’s eye was not harmed. ? The only advice I can give about the dogs is to give them time to adjust. ?They've been taken from their familiar home and human. They must be scared and unsure. ?
As for potty training, just keep at it. ?And get yourself a big bottle of OdorXit. ? ?www.OdorXit.com It works! ? If we had not found this several years ago, we would have lost it. ? Its made with all natural essential oils. ?It is safe for the pet. ?A local groomer even uses it to deskunk dogs that come in for grooming. ?It really does work! ? I use it in my carpet cleaner, in my laundry to remove musty smells, to remove odor from pet urine accidents, etc. ? It has a fresh pine scent that’s gone very quickly. Works on ALL kinds of odors.?
I have cats who get into spats. ?Then they want to mark on the wall. ?Grrrrr I just get a bucket of water with a little soap in it, add an ounce of OdorXit, and wipe down the wall and baseboard. ?
Its sold as a premix or as a concentrate. ?Much cheaper as a concentrate. ? ?They also have an air freshener product. ? OdorXit is made in a town near to me—small company with 4 employees. ?It works!
Ive tried all the other brands of pet urine cleaners. ?All jokes or so slow as to be useless. ?I’ve wasted a LOT of money on name brand products. ?
I live in fear that they will go out of business! ?Lol. ?
Hugs On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Jacqui, Do NOT be embarrassed here of all places. ?We are here to help even if that is only to offer hugs. ?Lots of good advice has flowed through this group over the years, including from you! ?When you need an ear or shoulder, we are here. ?
So very glad Marguerite’s eye was not harmed. ? The only advice I can give about the dogs is to give them time to adjust. ?They've been taken from their familiar home and human. They must be scared and unsure. ?
As for potty training, just keep at it. ?And get yourself a big bottle of OdorXit. ? ?www.OdorXit.com It works! ? If we had not found this several years ago, we would have lost it. ? Its made with all natural essential oils. ?It is safe for the pet. ?A local groomer even uses it to deskunk dogs that come in for grooming. ?It really does work! ? I use it in my carpet cleaner, in my laundry to remove musty smells, to remove odor from pet urine accidents, etc. ? It has a fresh pine scent that’s gone very quickly. Works on ALL kinds of odors.?
I have cats who get into spats. ?Then they want to mark on the wall. ?Grrrrr I just get a bucket of water with a little soap in it, add an ounce of OdorXit, and wipe down the wall and baseboard. ?
Its sold as a premix or as a concentrate. ?Much cheaper as a concentrate. ? ?They also have an air freshener product. ? OdorXit is made in a town near to me—small company with 4 employees. ?It works!
Ive tried all the other brands of pet urine cleaners. ?All jokes or so slow as to be useless. ?I’ve wasted a LOT of money on name brand products. ?
I live in fear that they will go out of business! ?Lol. ?
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On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Moving in to the third decade of the twenty-first century ... I regularly encourage peeps to be MORE vulnerable in *words* ... to speak their authentic truth :-)
Feel free to delay your grieving until 2022 if you want ... no bean counters will be making a mark after your name ...
Grief is everyone's very individual *art*heart*thought* project ... or not.
The show Dog Impossible has given me very valuable insight into how dogs "operate" ... you might find it useful for integrating your new Kids :-)
erica in AZ
On Sat, Dec 7, 2019 at 4:35 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: Jacqui, never, ever be embarrassed to share with us. The folks here have been my support more times than I can count. I feel like we will always and forever have each others’ backs. ? This was your turn. ? ? ? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.? My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!) We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon ? Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Jacqui, never, ever be embarrassed to share with us. The folks here have been my support more times than I can count. I feel like we will always and forever have each others’ backs. ? This was your turn. ? ?
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From: yarnmongers@groups.io <yarnmongers@groups.io> On Behalf Of jacqui whittemore Sent: Saturday, December 7, 2019 5:31 PM To: yarnmongers@groups.io Subject: Re: [yarnmongers] Jaccqui/Thank you ? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.? My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!) We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon ? Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline?
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On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon
Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Big Hugs, Jacqui.? Hope the clouds pass soon.
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I’m sorry. Definitely worth the wait. Is there anything I can do to make it easier? Ann McManus in PA ?Sent from my iPhone
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On Dec 3, 2019, at 5:43 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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