Jacqui, Do NOT be embarrassed here of all places. ?We are here to help even if that is only to offer hugs. ?Lots of good advice has flowed through this group over the years, including from you! ?When you need an ear or shoulder, we are here. ?
So very glad Marguerite’s eye was not harmed. ? The only advice I can give about the dogs is to give them time to adjust. ?They've been taken from their familiar home and human. They must be scared and unsure. ?
As for potty training, just keep at it. ?And get yourself a big bottle of OdorXit. ? ?www.OdorXit.com It works! ? If we had not found this several years ago, we would have lost it. ? Its made with all natural essential oils. ?It is safe for the pet. ?A local groomer even uses it to deskunk dogs that come in for grooming. ?It really does work! ? I use it in my carpet cleaner, in my laundry to remove musty smells, to remove odor from pet urine accidents, etc. ? It has a fresh pine scent that’s gone very quickly. Works on ALL kinds of odors.?
I have cats who get into spats. ?Then they want to mark on the wall. ?Grrrrr I just get a bucket of water with a little soap in it, add an ounce of OdorXit, and wipe down the wall and baseboard. ?
Its sold as a premix or as a concentrate. ?Much cheaper as a concentrate. ? ?They also have an air freshener product. ? OdorXit is made in a town near to me—small company with 4 employees. ?It works!
Ive tried all the other brands of pet urine cleaners. ?All jokes or so slow as to be useless. ?I’ve wasted a LOT of money on name brand products. ?
I live in fear that they will go out of business! ?Lol. ?
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On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Big hugs to you Jacqui. Losing a parent is hard no matter how many blessings there are and how much gratitude you have. Good luck with the dogs too.? XoNilda? On Dec 8, 2019, at 5:02 AM, "Connie@..." <Connie@...> wrote:
? Jacqui, Do NOT be embarrassed here of all places. ?We are here to help even if that is only to offer hugs. ?Lots of good advice has flowed through this group over the years, including from you! ?When you need an ear or shoulder, we are here. ?
So very glad Marguerite’s eye was not harmed. ? The only advice I can give about the dogs is to give them time to adjust. ?They've been taken from their familiar home and human. They must be scared and unsure. ?
As for potty training, just keep at it. ?And get yourself a big bottle of OdorXit. ? ?www.OdorXit.com It works! ? If we had not found this several years ago, we would have lost it. ? Its made with all natural essential oils. ?It is safe for the pet. ?A local groomer even uses it to deskunk dogs that come in for grooming. ?It really does work! ? I use it in my carpet cleaner, in my laundry to remove musty smells, to remove odor from pet urine accidents, etc. ? It has a fresh pine scent that’s gone very quickly. Works on ALL kinds of odors.?
I have cats who get into spats. ?Then they want to mark on the wall. ?Grrrrr I just get a bucket of water with a little soap in it, add an ounce of OdorXit, and wipe down the wall and baseboard. ?
Its sold as a premix or as a concentrate. ?Much cheaper as a concentrate. ? ?They also have an air freshener product. ? OdorXit is made in a town near to me—small company with 4 employees. ?It works!
Ive tried all the other brands of pet urine cleaners. ?All jokes or so slow as to be useless. ?I’ve wasted a LOT of money on name brand products. ?
I live in fear that they will go out of business! ?Lol. ?
Hugs On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Jacqui,?
Hugs. It’s never OK to lose those we love. And it sounds like things went as well as they ever do. Grief will come when it needs to. ?Really big hugs!
One of the things I treasure about this group is the unconditional support. ?It’s yours now.
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On Dec 7, 2019, at 5:31 PM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything.
I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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Ann- good for you. Not your monkeys and all that. You gave them so much already. It's your turn. Again. And still.
And have a great time with the baby grands! How old are they now?
xoNilda
On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 8:47 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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Not so “baby” anymore, Nilda. Rowan just turned 12, Conor is 9, and Fiona’s 6 (going on 16 as they say). ? Ann in PA ?
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Subject: Re: [yarnmongers] Got the call ? Ann- good for you. Not your monkeys and all that. You gave them so much already. It's your turn. Again. And still. And have a great time with the baby grands! How old are they now? ? On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 8:47 PM Ann McManus <mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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Way to go, Ann! ?You’d be walking into the exact same mess as before. ?Been there, fixed that. ?Who wants to relive that? ? It would feel like the movie, “Groundhog Day.” ? ?Ick! ? (Unless.......you tell them you’d have to be provided a car, and be paid as a consultant at $250/hr. to last no more than a couple of months. ? Heeeeee, would pay for a nice little vacation. ? The bonus is, theyd never go for that and would back far far away from asking again!)
Have fun with your grand babies! NO diapers to change now but still at the fun, innocent ages. ?
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? Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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Not your monkeys. There is something seriously wrong there if they can’t find a decent chief. You’ve been there done that. Fixed it. They messed it up. Let them deal with it.?
Good going on the grands. Have fun!
On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 2:47 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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There’s a pretty limited candidate pool. A pretty broad skill set needed, and an aging group of experienced possibilities.
The newest potential director is young, but she just had a baby. Ann McManus in PA ?Sent from my iPhone
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? Not your monkeys. There is something seriously wrong there if they can’t find a decent chief. You’ve been there done that. Fixed it. They messed it up. Let them deal with it.?
Good going on the grands. Have fun! On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 2:47 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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They should post (if they're not doing this already) on sites like Idealist and other NFP jobsites. Also LinkedIn. I'm guessing that there would be folks in NYC who might be interested in both a lower cost of living and a promotion and who have experience.?
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On Tue, Dec 10, 2019 at 3:51 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: There’s a pretty limited candidate pool. A pretty broad skill set needed, and an aging group of experienced possibilities.
The newest potential director is young, but she just had a baby. Ann McManus in PA ?Sent from my iPhone On Dec 9, 2019, at 5:56 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
? Not your monkeys. There is something seriously wrong there if they can’t find a decent chief. You’ve been there done that. Fixed it. They messed it up. Let them deal with it.?
Good going on the grands. Have fun! On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 2:47 PM Ann McManus < mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!!
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On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything. I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Wow! ?That is a lot to deal with. ? Maybe you could hire a little help for a few weeks to help lessen the load?
Hope you are all on the mend ? ?There is a nasty respiratory bug going around here. ? I literally had it from Oct 7 till Dec 7. ? This is the first week that I actually feel sorta normal. ? ?I sure hope you don’t have the same thing. ? It feels like whooping cough without the signature “whoop.”
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On Dec 10, 2019, at 11:23 AM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
? The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!! - Jacqueline?
On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything. I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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See, I knew you’d need a neck warmer! Glad it arrived. ? Feel better fast, and hug your caring little doggie lover. ? ?
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From: [email protected] < [email protected]> On Behalf Of jacqui whittemore Sent: Tuesday, December 10, 2019 11:24 AM To: [email protected]Subject: Re: [yarnmongers] Jaccqui/Thank you ? The dogs are here to stay.?Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.? Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.? One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything. In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.? Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!! ?
On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.? Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them? Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything. ? I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.? My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!) We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon ? Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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Nilda, it appears that the Ideal Candidate has already been identified, and though I think that practice stinks (because someone still has to go through the motions of advertising, interviewing, etc.), it’s how *I* got the job. The problem is that IC just had a baby and is currently PT until April. ? Ann in PA ?
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Subject: Re: [yarnmongers] Got the call ? They should post (if they're not doing this already) on sites like Idealist and other NFP jobsites. Also LinkedIn. I'm guessing that there would be folks in NYC who might be interested in both a lower cost of living and a promotion and who have experience.? ? On Tue, Dec 10, 2019 at 3:51 PM Ann McManus <mcmanusab@...> wrote: There’s a pretty limited candidate pool. A pretty broad skill set needed, and an aging group of experienced possibilities. The newest potential director is young, but she just had a baby.
On Dec 9, 2019, at 5:56 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
? Not your monkeys. There is something seriously wrong there if they can’t find a decent chief. You’ve been there done that. Fixed it. They messed it up. Let them deal with it.? Good going on the grands. Have fun! ? On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 2:47 PM Ann McManus <mcmanusab@...> wrote: Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no. ? Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me. ? ::sigh:: ? ? On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip. ? ? Ann in PA ?
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That is lovely! It looks so good on you. Way to go, Ann!
I hope you all get better soon. It is really awful when one person after another gets sick. But at least you got through your conference. I prescribe lots of fluids, hot if that makes you feel better, cold sometimes works better for sore, painful throats. Honey to soothe the throat. Steam inhalations to clear upper-respiratory stuff. And here's hoping they've got their antibodies all set so you won't give it back to them!
((((hugs)))) And good going for Marguerite to take care of the dogs. I'm sure that will be a good memory of your Dad for her.
The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!! - Jacqueline?
On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything. I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.) - Jacqueline? On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan < ermabom@...> wrote: Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.? - Jacqueline? Wow! What pretty odd balls. ? Thank you! ? Ann in PA ?
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What a beautiful gift!? I've been reading along and sending virtual hugs.? Please do take care and I hope your entire family feels better soon.
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Feel better fast, and hug your caring little doggie lover.
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The dogs are here to stay.?Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result
is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!!
You all are positively the best. Mwah!!!
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On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything.
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I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small
hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!)
So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are
dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon
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Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.?
Wow! What pretty odd balls.
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Thank you!
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Ann in PA
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Ann, it must in an odd way make you feel good that you performed such a stellar job in that role that they keep wanting you back.? My first thought was, did they not hear she is RETIRED?? Gee, leave it alone!
Congrats on the Baby Grands adventure.? I hope we can hear more about how that goes.? How old are they now and how often do you get to spend time with them?
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Nilda, it appears that the Ideal Candidate has already been identified, and though I think that practice stinks (because someone still has to go through the motions of advertising, interviewing, etc.), it’s how *I* got the job. The problem is that IC
just had a baby and is currently PT until April.
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Sent: Tuesday, December 10, 2019 10:10 AM
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Subject: Re: [yarnmongers] Got the call
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They should post (if they're not doing this already) on sites like Idealist and other NFP jobsites. Also LinkedIn. I'm guessing that there would be folks in NYC who might be interested in both a lower cost of living and a promotion and who have experience.?
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On Tue, Dec 10, 2019 at 3:51 PM Ann McManus <mcmanusab@...> wrote:
There’s a pretty limited candidate pool. A pretty broad skill set needed, and an aging group of experienced possibilities.
The newest potential director is young, but she just had a baby.
On Dec 9, 2019, at 5:56 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <ermabom@...> wrote:
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Not your monkeys. There is something seriously wrong there if they can’t find a decent chief. You’ve been there done that. Fixed it. They messed it up. Let them deal with it.?
Good going on the grands. Have fun!
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On Mon, Dec 9, 2019 at 2:47 PM Ann McManus <mcmanusab@...> wrote:
Actually, it was an email, but same thing, really. Asked if I want to come back in an advisory role. I said no.
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Mark and I had a long conversation about this. I know he would support any decision I made, but this feels wrong. I have no idea what I’d be walking back into. Four years and two inept successors. I cleaned up that mess 20 years ago. I don’t think I have the
strength or energy to do it again. Plus, I really don’t want to acquire another car. Plus, I have a small town library counting on me.
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On a happy note, the Baby Grands are coming for the weekend alone. The stepmom-wannabe is bringing them as far as Philadelphia where we will pick them up. Returning them on Sunday where she will meet us for the return trip.
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Sorry about your woes, Jacqui. That's hard.
I was interested to hear that the cough with a whoop is going about in the US too. Lots of people in London have had it including my parents for about 2 months. My mother said she must not go to the doctor until she was completely better, even though she felt quite ill, which although public spirited was silly and led to a stroke on Sunday and Monday which we only discovered by accident when she called me using the wrong nouns for things which is not like her. She then picked up a UTI which made her quite delirious and I spent much of last night literally chasing her around the A and E department as she kept leaping off her assessment trolley. Finally after 9 hours (preceded by 3 hr wait for ambulance) they found her a bed on a ward. Hopefully they can get her to stay until tomorrow. Yesterday she discharged herself because "there was nothing wrong? with her" and promptly fell at home and hit her head on the bath. My dad at 88 can't deal with this sort of thing so I am here in London for the week, instead of in Geneva with DH. At least my luggage was already packed and the cat and dog were boarding from Monday anyway.
Hope everyone's lives settle down for the midwinter season
Jenny
On 10 December 2019 at 17:13 "Connie@..." <connie@...> wrote:
Wow! ?That is a lot to deal with. ? Maybe you could hire a little help for a few weeks to help lessen the load?
Hope you are all on the mend ? ?There is a nasty respiratory bug going around here. ? I literally had it from Oct 7 till Dec 7. ? This is the first week that I actually feel sorta normal. ? ?I sure hope you don’t have the same thing. ? It feels like whooping cough without the signature “whoop.”
On Dec 10, 2019, at 11:23 AM, jacqui whittemore <jackiechris.is@...> wrote:
The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!!
- Jacqueline?
On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan <
ermabom@...> wrote:
I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything.
I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
- Jacqueline?
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <
ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon
Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.?
- Jacqueline?
Wow! What pretty odd balls.
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Thank you!
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Ann in PA
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Oh dear. Jenny, I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I hope she recovers soon. It is tough when older people want to be independent and make their own decisions. In this case, it seems to have hurt her quite a bit. I hope the stroke doesn't leave any lasting damage.
My father is 92. He won't wear his hearing aid in the house except when he's watching TV it was a fight to get him to do that). So our conversations are like a comedy of errors. I am now going with him to all his doctor's appointments because he is either unable to hear or is incapable of understanding everything that is being said. Part of it is that since he doesn't wear the hearing aids often enough, his brain is not able to pick out the vocal sounds from the surrounding noise. I've explained this to him but he won't wear them often enough. The second part is that his mind is on what he wants to ask next and doesn't listen to what the other person is saying. Also he lipreads to compensate for the hearing so if he can't see their lips, he can't understand what is being said. It is interesting to watch. It is trying my patience a lot to let him do what he wants to do and to try and compensate. I meditated on that this am as I was quite irritated with him yesterday after a visit to the cardiologist.
On Wed, Dec 11, 2019 at 6:32 AM Jenny Swanson < jenny@...> wrote:
Sorry about your woes, Jacqui. That's hard.
I was interested to hear that the cough with a whoop is going about in the US too. Lots of people in London have had it including my parents for about 2 months. My mother said she must not go to the doctor until she was completely better, even though she felt quite ill, which although public spirited was silly and led to a stroke on Sunday and Monday which we only discovered by accident when she called me using the wrong nouns for things which is not like her. She then picked up a UTI which made her quite delirious and I spent much of last night literally chasing her around the A and E department as she kept leaping off her assessment trolley. Finally after 9 hours (preceded by 3 hr wait for ambulance) they found her a bed on a ward. Hopefully they can get her to stay until tomorrow. Yesterday she discharged herself because "there was nothing wrong? with her" and promptly fell at home and hit her head on the bath. My dad at 88 can't deal with this sort of thing so I am here in London for the week, instead of in Geneva with DH. At least my luggage was already packed and the cat and dog were boarding from Monday anyway.
Hope everyone's lives settle down for the midwinter season
Jenny
On 10 December 2019 at 17:13 "Connie@..." <connie@...> wrote:
Wow!? That is a lot to deal with. ? Maybe you could hire a little help for a few weeks to help lessen the load?
Hope you are all on the mend ? ?There is a nasty respiratory bug going around here. ? I literally had it from Oct 7 till Dec 7. ? This is the first week that I actually feel sorta normal. ? ?I sure hope you don’t have the same thing. ? It feels like whooping cough without the signature “whoop.”
The dogs are here to stay.? Marguerite had been put “in charge“ of taking care of them by my sister-in-law when dad was in the intensive care where they wouldn’t let her visit. It was a way for her to ?contribute to the fight to get him well.?
Not surprisingly, when we told her Dad was dying, she became extremely distressed about what would happen to them – as it was clear no one else cared to take them - so we gave her permission to ask?my Dad about adopting them.?
One of the big work challenges is that I was committed to 10 hours of new lectures at a conference this last weekend. Long story short, I finished the last PowerPoint the day before we flew out and had no time to rehearse anything.
In the meantime, because of his historical cancer/chemo, Andrew has the respiratory sensitivity of a canary. Marguerite brought home a little something from school which she immediately cleared but then he incubated it to extreme concentrations. Net result is he, and then she, got really sick. I started breaking with it the morning we were leaving town, but my immune system rallied to get me through my talks and our QFT on the trip this weekend.?
Now I’m back and sicker than a dog - horrible cough, sore throat, headache, nausea, you name it. However, as it often does, the world has smiled on me. I came home to the most lovely surprise from Ann - the perfect thing to wrap around my poor sore throat!! You all are positively the best. Mwah!!!
- Jacqueline?
On Dec 8, 2019, at 9:22 AM, Jaya Srikrishnan <
ermabom@...> wrote:
I am glad you shared it with us. Sharing sometimes somehow lessens the grief or worry. I am sorry for your loss but I am glass your dad was able to be at home at the end. May he rest in peace.?
Ouch! about Marguerite. At least it was only 'almost' and not actually. It must so chaotic with the dogs. Can they be rehomed or do you want to keep them?
Grieving occurs in its own way and in its own time. Being busy does defer it. Lots of hugs for everything.
I am so embarrassed! Somehow I didn’t realize that I was responding on the list serve. Overall, we have more blessings than we can count.?
My father was able to achieve his goal of dying at home, and he did not suffer doing so. This truly was an example of the Holy Spirit moving massive numbers of people in unexpected and unusual ways, for which I will be forever grateful. (For example, a small hospice organization picked up the phone late Saturday afternoon to talk to a social worker - who I think was calling while off for the day - and agreed to take us on that night, with Dad arriving home by medical transport at 9pm. This stuff just DOESN’T happen!) So, really, I have nothing about which to complain.?
That said, we came back to our little home with Dad’s two little dogs in tow and me neck deep overdue on work deadlines. Neither is really house-trained, and both ended up having previously unreported significant medical issues. On top of all that, there are dominance issues with our dog, leading to Marguerite almost getting bitten in the eye - quite literally. (Yikes!)
We are getting it all worked out, and all will be fine in the end. Getting through the day is just logistically tough right now! (Grieving can wait till 2020. Lol.)
- Jacqueline?
On Dec 4, 2019, at 6:05 PM, Jaya Srikrishnan <
ermabom@...> wrote:
Hope all is well Jacqui and the situation eases soon
Sorry it took so long! Things have been kind of hard here.?
- Jacqueline?
Wow! What pretty odd balls.
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Thank you!
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Ann in PA
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