This person begins by saying: "Abraham, I'm the oldest of two sons.?My parents plan on splitting their estate five ways. Not two ways, five ways. Between my brother, his wife, his two children and myself all equally." So then this person goes on to explain that while he is single and has no children yet, he may at some point, and he really believes that the money should be split up in two ways. And then, he said something very important. He said, "I know I may be looking for love in all the wrong places." And we want to say to you, it isn't love that you're looking for in all the wrong places.?It's fairness that you're looking for in all the wrong places. Expecting someone else to, for whatever reason, set aside their reason for their sense of fairness to comply with your reason for your sense of fairness.?Everyone certainly can relate to this in some way, yes?
Then he goes on to explain, and we really appreciate?this. We understand.?Because it's not unlikely, it's not even unwise. It's not helpful, but we get why you would then want to explain your case of why you think a two-way split is more fair than a five-way split. We get why you would do that. Self-interest is a real thing, isn't it? And that's what's tricky when you are co-creating with others, is that you all have a different vantage point from self.
And so,?this person is reaching for fairness, and says some of these things. More than this, but,... "I give a lot at family gatherings by buying gifts for my nephews, paying for meals and so forth.?I enjoy giving and the feeling of abundance that it brings to me. More so than what my brother does." We can feel the personal tug of war going on within this nice person. "I'm the one who always travels to see them. They live near each other and I live eight hours away. My brother has more personal expenses than I do." Still trying to sort this out. "But I have more business expenses." Still trying to sort this out. "And, everybody complains. And basically, I don't want to hear complaining anymore. And I should be the one complaining, but I don't do as much complaining and..."
So, you can feel the struggle and maybe even resonate with it. And?here's what we want to say to all of you, especially to you who has taken the time to be candid, write what you're feeling and open such an important, really important conversation for us to begin this broadcast.
When we said that you're looking for fairness in the wrong place, expecting your parents to hold the same point of view that you do... You're reaching for something that you can never achieve because they don't have the same point of view. And we don't think you could do enough talking to persuade anyone from their point of view about anything really.
Humans waste so much of your time trying to justify your point of view by trying to convince others to come to your point of view. And in doing so you continue to activate resistance, which equals your own internal struggle, which is about your own splitting of energy, which is about your own contradictive point of attraction, which is why you're getting what you're getting.
So, not only can you not get to where you want to be in this situation from trying to figure out what's fair and trying to convince others of what fairness is and convincing them that your point of view of fairness is the correct point of view, aside from that, which is big, and what so many people are about all day every day.
What you are really setting aside and not factoring in is what true fairness really is all about, and that is that the law of attraction is not considering all the pros and the cons and the pluses and the minuses that you are laying out here.?Not trying to meld in a fair sort of way: Well, there were really only two siblings. And now, there are four siblings on one leg of this family and one on the other. And how is that fair?
The law of attraction is not sorting any of that out. The law of attraction is doing one very simple thing: responding to your degree of split energy. So, it doesn't matter how right you are as you weigh this out and trying to get this four to one to somehow come into balance.?It's YOU coming into balance. And you're not ever going to be in balance - any of you - as long as you think that there is?a stream - in this case, your parents - of abundance through which what you and your brother have to share comes. It's not about that at all. It isn't even a little bit about that.?Because your abundance comes from so many avenues in response to what you've got going on vibrationally.??
We know it's confusing because you see people who are destitute and you wonder about their point of attraction.?You see people who have inherited and you are often unfriendly feeling about their seeming point of attraction. But it isn't about inheritance and it isn't about luck and it isn't about chance and it isn't about someone else gathering it up and then finding some fair way to dole it out. Really really, it isn't. It isn't.
As parents or grandparents, if you're wanting to save your children and their children a lot of trouble, spend it all and don't leave anything to anyone. If they're going to use it as a source of judgment and belittling others or themselves.
But that's not what we're going for here either. We're not trying to meddle in your familiar affairs at all. But we are meddling in your point of attraction affairs, over which you have so much control.
At what point do you stop trying to collect all the data and evaluate it all? The most sophisticated computer systems in the world even AI can't sort this one out. There's no fairness that exists outside of you understanding your point of attraction and you understanding that you're getting what you are attracting and that what you are attracting is evidenced to you by how you are feeling.?And this jealousy, this feeling of injustice that you're harboring and feeding and wanting to justify, it is an indication of a point of resistance that is holding you back from abundance that you want and deserve.
The reason that there is benefit in you living on a planet with so many others is that you help one another in establishing your own personal preferences. You are really good for each other in establishing step one. I know what I don't want. I don't want injustice. Therefore I know what I do want. I want fairness and justice.
And we want you to understand that nothing short of that is ever happening to anyone. Because what you're offering vibrationally is your point of attraction. And it doesn't matter how you got to that place of feeling fairness or unfairness, justice or injustice. It doesn't matter how many facts you're digging up to point out the rightness of your position, and to explain the certainty of your position.
How you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.?How you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.
Now, you might want to say, yeah, but I feel this way because of something that my parents did. No argument from us, but how you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.
But but Abraham, how I feel is because of what someone else did. You're not getting any argument from us. You're not wrong, but how you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting. ?
But Abraham, there are four of them and only one of me.?No argument from us there. You're not wrong, but how you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.?How you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting. How you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.?So, if you feel injustice,?the law of attraction will demonstrate it to you in so many ways. ?
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So, what are you gonna do about how you feel??This person can't even get his parents to listen to his reasoning. How are you going to influence others to your sense of justice?
If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would no longer attempt to defy this powerful law of attraction, which says how you feel is how you feel, and how you feel is what you're getting.?And we would figure out how to feel in a way that?lets us let in what we're wanting. It's the only way we're ever going to sort any of this out.
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