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Hi sisters, I am struggling and I don't know whether to talk to a friend, ask for a circle of support (a zoom call with some of you?), get counseling, all of the above. Mom has memory loss and cognition problems, severe anxiety, a limited lifestyle, and loneliness. So she wants to talk, but has nothing to talk about. And she has a million anxieties and memory problems. All that combines resulting in her repeat things over and over, asking things over and over. Unlike Dane, I work from home so I'm here with her all day every day. I wake up with my patience bank topped off from the night off sleeping, and then it's chipped away at all day long. Some days I make it to evening before I get snappish, other days it wears out earlier. She also may have some "sundowning" making her more prone to confusion and anger in the evening. Today is one of those "other days." It's only 9:22 am today and already I've gotten into a fight with her. I'm not nice, apparently want her to never speak, don't like anything about her, basically hate her, and probably never loved her. I pointed out that I moved to Lexington to take care of her, but she does not (at this moment) believe that. I guess I just moved from a city full of art, culture, theater, restaurants to a town of 4500 only for the big house I could buy. I'm going to move out and never come see her. She makes up these stories and they aren't true, but she hears anything I say that isn't 100% positive as critical of her. Intellectually, I KNOW that she can't remember she's asked the same thing 3 times in 5 minutes, or the other thing 15 times today, or whatever. When we got snappish this morning, I made the mistake of saying that I just wanted her to understand, empathize a little, how hard it is to be with someone with memory loss, how it could be irritating to answer the same thing over and over. I should know better, she cannot hear or understand this. Doesn't believe she does it because every time she asks anything is the first time to her. To her (when we are fighting about it), she is just making conversation. (When we are not fighting, she is clearly anxious and asking again and again, worried about what day it is, what she has to do, when she has to be ready, whether she's taken her pills, and a million minor household things she sees and believes have to be taken care of right then.) Instead, it's all about her--she can't help it. Why don't I sympathize with how lonely she is, how she needs someone to talk to, etc. (Her lonelinees, and need for help, is why I moved home, but I'm not succeeding.) I recognize in myself that from first moving in and beginning to experience this every day, I have been putting up my guard, doing things verbally and nonverbally trying to discourage conversation a lot of the time. I feel like my brain has been pricked full of pinholes having to revisit constantly things that don't matter (to me, and not really to her although she thinks they are important), that I have already put a plan in place to resolve ("Harold is coming to fix the screen next week...Harold is coming to fix the screen next week..."), or can't prioritize yet amidst everything else going on (what are we going to do about a few dead trees, who's going to do snow removal this winter, etc.). I have MUCH less time to my own uninterrupted thoughts, and am consequently struggling to keep all the balls I'm juggling in the air. The farm needs attention for sure and that's an area I have most neglected during this. I am hopeful that when I move and start coming over here for visits, which will likely be almost daily, probably often more than once a day, that I can put on a happy face and be nothing but sweet, loving, attentive, positive, talkative, etc. Anything but that is likely to make her think I'm sullen, don't want her to talk, etc. So for the next three weeks while stil living here, and for the future when I am just coming over frequently, I need some coping skills, and I'm still swamped with so many responsibilities even as certain big things have resolved (moving, selling my Virgi

Hi everyone, I noticed a Facebook post from ALisa, with a portrait of her taken in 2018 for use in a photography exhibition and book "Major Arcana: Witches of North America." It's an interesting post from ALisa you might look up on her page and read (she posted today), including ALisa saying that she asked the photographer to remove her photo from the exhibition/book because of rejection of her by family because of it. But meanwhile, I went looking for this photographer and her portraits. Thought you might enjoy two of her portfolios in particular. https://www.francesfdenny.com/ Select Portfolios on the left and then -Major Arcana: Witches in North America (portraits of women, perhaps self identified as witches; it isn't explained) and -Spellwork (artistic photos of flowers and plants set among objects and related to the named spells i guess, I don't know much about spells, but words and images come together to make lovely art regardless) From the extraordinary heart and mind of Jill Nienhiser via jnienhiser@...

Hello sisters, I just wanted to give you an update, so far 8 of us are a strong yes, I”ll be reaching out to unknown sisters soon. I have secured a woman facilitator for Saturday. Her name is Stephanie Lynn Brown, her website is https://www.karmictouchhealingarts.com/home. I’ve talked with many people about facilitating, Stephanie came highly recommended by Robyn Vogel and man did our conversation have such coincidences! It left me with such excitement for the weekend and the same goes for her. She is truly honored to be able to facilitate for us. We will talk this week to make more of a plan. She works with many plants and asked if we would be interested in a cacao ceremony? So I put her link above if anyone wants to check it out and reply with what resonates or doesn’t for them please do. If not all good and just know ritual she will bring. WIth that said the cost of the weekend is still to be determined but it will fall somewhere between $159-$200. Please remember that this does not include our membership fee of $25. Membership fee can be sent to me Venmo @Katie-Yellow or mailed to me at !415 Dry Creek Rd Ashland City, Tn 37015 Love you Sisters! Yellow

Hi all, if you're traveling to SSR in September, or willing to pick up/drop off or keep me Thu night, would you please let me know? (Flight options are looking dismal for Friday so I am thinking I might come Thursday--anyone want extra time with me? :) ) I would like to get a sense of who's coming and how long folks are staying...last time I left early Mon and had to take an Uber because no one else wanted to leave for the airport early...it was fine, but I'd like to max out the sister time too so it would help to know what others' plans are. Thanks! Jill From the extraordinary heart and mind of Jill Nienhiser via jnienhiser@...

Hello Sisters, Time is flying by and its almost one month until we gather! I'm so looking forward to being together, what a 6 months it has been. I'm late in doing so but I'm asking for everyone to let me know if you will be joining our September gathering? It will be in the same location in Shrewsbury, Ma. I have been calling many people looking for a facilitator and I have yet to find someone so the weekend happenings are still in the mystery. Thank you to everyone who has offered ideas, questions and dialog... If anyone has any other thoughts, suggestions, offerings please do let me know. Love you all, Katie

Hello Sisters, The other day I was looking at flights for our gathering in September… and the familiar anger surfaced again. UGH… what a journey this has been. Stated simply: A couple of years ago, I was angry at the costs of travel and the level of effort it takes to get there. Then… it was my frustration around not having processed covid-times conflict, which led me to wanting to leave the group. NOW… this time, I was like, “wtf is this anger after all that deep work we did in April?!” The work we did felt like there was real healing… we did great ritual… lots of connection and amazingness. I felt like we were a group of priestesses again. So…? Jesus-fucking-christ. So- I’ve been sitting with it. Thinking… feeling… talking… and here’s something new that popped up. Basically- I don’t know why I’m coming. Like- more deeply… why are we gathering? What’s the purpose of us coming together? Maybe I’m the only one that is unclear or the only one that cares about our why… but I have a request that we talk about this (our “why” for gathering) during our business time on Sunday. ALSO, in talking through some of this with Meggie a bit, we had a brainstorm about something I have a lot of interest in… that is this: Let’s hire someone to facilitate us for the next two years… to take us through a 4-weekend program. Basically, instead of us picking co-fo’s every year from within our group, let’s hire a “fo” (or a co-fo) to facilitate two weekends a year for us. For example, she (the hired fo) would create the programming based on some guidelines… like, Friday and Saturday facilitation; Sunday we do us. We mostly just frickin show-up. I know it’s probably not as simple as I want it to be… like obviously this will cost money, and we’d need to figure out the specifics around that. And maybe we won’t like what she brings to us… or maybe we all won’t be able to attend the weekends and we’d each still have to pay our share…. I just know I don’t want to co-fo (or so-fo) for a long time… and it doesn’t seem like any of us are very interested in it… so this could potentially “solve” that for a couple years. Last thought about this for now is that I have someone in mind: Katie Chiaravolloti. She’s really great! I’ve recently worked with her a couple times in Shadow Work containers… she is a priestess… was on PP sisterhood for a few years. I know others of you have met/know her. She’s in NJ… so not super close to MA, but not as far away as me. I’m not attached, but I wanted to offer a starting point. Okay! That’s all I’ve got for now. Thanks for reading. I hope you all are interested in discussing this at the weekend, too. With love, Gretchen Life Rewards Action! Yay! High - five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 (she/her) Upcoming Events: Fall Group Coaching Program (more info soon!) Nov 15-17, 2024 Guest facilitator at Release Your Burdens in St. Charles, IL Nov 22-24, 2024 Shadow Work Foundations Workshop, Edmonton, Alberta Canada Dec 7-15, 2024 Shadow Work Basic Facilitator Training, Boulder, CO Mar 22-30, 2025 Shadow Work Basic Facilitator Training, Edmonton, Alberta Canada From: [email protected] <[email protected]> On Behalf Of Abigail J Sent: Wednesday, July 31, 2024 2:50 PM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [Sacredsistersrising] September travel buddies? Hello! I have been meaning to respond to this and life for ahead of me. Anyone is welcome to stay with me in Watertown. I have a queen blow up mattress and an extra room. My logistics with SSR weekend are unknown at the moment. This past year Alaric had a school program on Friday and Monday so that I could be free those days for the weekend and for rides. This upcoming year, Alaric is not enrolled in a program. Alfonso's mom is our flexible and available babysitter (I'm so lucky!!!) however she works weekdays. I haven't begun looking into options and might take the easy route, which is arrive late Friday night / Sat morning and leave sun night. I apologize. I have a story that I'm not reliable and available for folks. And it is how my parent life is du

Hey sisters, I did not expect it to happen so soon, but a house came on the market in Lexington that is a great deal so we are buying it...pending inspections. The original part of the house was built in 1850 with a wing added in 1880, and a small "lean to" off the kitchen that looks like it was added in the 1950s. It's among the houses listed for the Old Neighborhoods Historic District on the National Register of Historic Places. It's got a little plaque on it calling it "The Russell House" and I have yet to learn who this Russell was. I am hoping it's William Russell of Russell, Majors, and Waddell, three merchants and government contractors who shipped goods for the military overland on the Santa Fe Trail, and later founded the Pony Express. The three founders were from Lexington, although the eastern terminus of the Pony Express was west of here, in St. Joseph, Missouri. The age of the house makes it suitable, although I would think if it's "that" Russell, that would be more widely known in town. I'll let you know what I find out. It will be fun to furnish and decorate it. Looking forward to finding an aesthetic that strikes a balance between overly antique-y and too modern. I do not want it to be too crowded with figurines and things, as many of the old homes owners do around here. Spare, with fewer objects carefully chosen rather than a ton crammed in. And I will enjoy that kitchen. Check it out here: https://www.zillow.com/homes/118-N-17th-St-Lexington,-MO-64067_rb/194863901_zpid/ The sale of my house in Virginia closes tomorrow 7/31. The purchase of this house in Lexington is scheduled for August 31, with us moving in early September. I will be so much happier and better able to care for my mom once I move out of her house! :) From the extraordinary heart and mind of Jill Nienhiser via jnienhiser@...

Hello Ladies, I shared on the recent call about a new protocol I am implementing with Alaric. Nemechek Protocol. Summary from book: "Nemechek protocol is solely focused on reducing inflammation and most notably through the reversal of SIBO using either the prebiotic fiber Inulin or the non absorbable antibiotic rifaximin. My protocol allows more than 90% of the children under my care to maintain a rate of neurological recovery that parents, teachers and therapists find unequaled. My protocol's tru power and success lie within the human body's natural ability to neurologically recover if the body is maintained in a healthy non-inflammatory state." The three Items of the protocol are: Prebiotic fiber - inulin (kids) rifaximin (adults) high grade olive oil high grade fish oil *** super easy and inexpensive in comparison to practitioners and medical deductions. Website: https://nemechekprotocol.com/. - you can also buy the book on amazon. I learned about this protocol through a friend who has a 5 year old child that Alaric plays with. She shared her journey about how much her son went from a diagnosis of autism to a normal kid. Alaric doesn't demonstrate any neurological inflammation however his first issue was digestive and since we have had a cascade of other inflammation - lungs, tonsils, ear fluid, eyes, and random food intolerances, lack of nutrients absorption. and a low functioning immune system.... I have been to a hematologist, immunologist, allergist, pediatrician, etc... not much there. I have tried herbs, probiotics, enzymes, and food restrictions. Been to acupressure, herbalist and chiropractic. Some things helped for a little while but then digestive and inflammation symptoms returned. My thought was.... maybe Alaric has SIBO but with another presentation of inflammation? For the past 2 weeks I have been using this protocol and he is doing well. I am praying it can help balance his body and provide the support we need for recovery. I think this book might be a good read for anyone with / if you know anyone with: neurological issues developmental delays behavior / emotional struggles ADD / ADHD Alzheimers, etc.. all digestive issues excessive physical inflammation **an overall great read and can easily be skimmed. Ok. If any of you read it, happy to share thoughts and my experience moving forward with Alaric. Abigail -- ajeanh@... 617.921.4974

Hello Sisters!! We are looking forward to being with some of you tomorrow, July 2nd from 7p-9p EDT. If you initially weren’t planning to come but now you want to… Yay! Come!! If you were planning to come, but now you won’t be, ? and please let us know so we don’t wait to get started thinking that you might be running late. Thanks!! ? If you can only come for part of the time, please come! If you’re not able to come at all, we love you! As a reminder, this is simply an opportunity for us to connect about the previous weekend or anything else we want… Please bring a talking piece. The link is below. If you can’t zoom in, but you can call, those numbers are below as well. Looking forward to seeing your beautiful faces! Love, Gretchen and Meggie Topic: SSR check-in, Jul 2024 Time: Jul 2; 7p-9p EDT Join Zoom Meeting https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89820526842?pwd=0IZvNv04T63UbpAVNAVKic0ecbouYr.1 Meeting ID: 898 2052 6842 Passcode: SSR --- One tap mobile +12532050468,,89820526842#,,,,*337436# US +12532158782,,89820526842#,,,,*337436# US (Tacoma) --- Dial by your location ? +1 253 205 0468 US ? +1 253 215 8782 US (Tacoma) ? +1 346 248 7799 US (Houston) ? +1 669 444 9171 US ? +1 669 900 9128 US (San Jose) ? +1 719 359 4580 US ? +1 646 931 3860 US ? +1 689 278 1000 US ? +1 301 715 8592 US (Washington DC) ? +1 305 224 1968 US ? +1 309 205 3325 US ? +1 312 626 6799 US (Chicago) ? +1 360 209 5623 US ? +1 386 347 5053 US ? +1 507 473 4847 US ? +1 564 217 2000 US ? +1 646 558 8656 US (New York) Meeting ID: 898 2052 6842 Passcode: 337436 Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kJQTzpMxo Life Rewards Action! Yay! High - five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 (she/her) Upcoming Events: Jul 12-14, 2024 Shadow Work Weekend for Women in Boise, ID Jul 26-28, 2024 Shadow Work Weekend for Women in Escondido, CA (near San Diego) Nov 15-17, 2024 Guest facilitator at Release Your Burdens in St. Charles, IL Nov 22-24, 2024 Shadow Work Foundations Workshop, Edmonton, Alberta Canada

Hello Women! I’m wondering if you might be willing to share the word about the upcoming SWWW that’s happening in Escondido, CA next month? There are a few spots open, and maybe you know some women that you could share it with? There are a few spots left. I’ll be co-facilitating with Karin Green (who I think we all know). Here’s the link: https://gretchenkainz.com/ca2024 If cost is an issue, I’d be happy to discuss. Thanks, Sisters! Looking forward to seeing some of you on July 2nd. With lots of love, Gretchen Life Rewards Action! Yay! High - five! gretchenkainz.com 850-774-2236 (she/her) Upcoming Events: Jul 12-14, 2024 Shadow Work Weekend for Women in Boise, ID Jul 26-28, 2024 Shadow Work Weekend for Women in Escondido, CA (near San Diego) Nov 15-17, 2024 Guest facilitator at Release Your Burdens in St. Charles, IL Nov 22-24, 2024 Shadow Work Foundations Workshop, Edmonton, Alberta Canada

Hello woman, We will definitely be meeting on our original date of September 27-30th. Emily will not be joining us. The plan for the weekend has yet to unfold… if anyone has thoughts on what they”d like to see/experience just let me know. Loving you all from Tennessee. Yellow

Hi sisters! It's our last weekend in the house we've been renting for 5.5 years. We're in the thick of packing, getting down to the daily essentials. Movers come next Friday 6/21 to move us into my mom's house in Lexington, Missouri, population 4,726 (soon to be 4,728). It is going to be a big change. The idea is to get a first hand look at how mom is doing and see whether loneliness and anxiety are her main problems rather than memory loss or onset of alzheimer's, dementia, etc. Hoping our daily presence will alleviate her anxiety vs. make it worse in that maybe we'll be hard to live with! LOL Dane and I are going to have to stop swearing, which I think will be worse for him than for me, since I'm used to not swearing around my parents. We are hoping that we can use the experience of having a witness to our relationship to help us break bad habits of bickering, defensiveness, irritability with each other, etc. My house should go on the market in Virginia in a week or so, so hopefully soon I will have the cash in hand and if living with Mom is too stressful for any of us we'd be able to buy in Lexington as soon as the right house presented itself. I can speak more about this on our 7/2 call, at which point we'll have been there a week or so. If you keep your address book up to date, note that you can delete 4810 Jarboe St. Kansas City, Mo. 64112 and replace it with 504 S. Business Hwy 13, Lexington, Mo. 64067. Talk to you soon! love and kisses, jill From the extraordinary heart and mind of Jill Nienhiser via jnienhiser@...

Hi Sisters, Thanks for doing to the doodle poll -- we have a date for our SSR zoom check-in! July 2nd, 7 - 9 pm ET. Pop that into your calendars and we'll see you there! We'll send out the zoom link closer to the time of. Love, Meggie and Gretchen

Good Afternoon Sisters As you may know "My New Website Kate Zehnter Art .com is an interactive web site. & Tomorrow, the ABC doodle series will be coming your way via email. My intention for this project is to have fun, to create together, your own idea or add something to one of my ABC doodles & if willing I will share your doodle on my website in the near future. If you know someone of any age that will enjoy playing with me to make art. Please share this invite. Thanks Kate z Kate Zehnter Art .com Zehnergy.com 978-884-6712 kzehnter@... Kate Zehnter Art

Good morning sisters, I have asked Emily if she could facilitate in September. She is unable to for our current gathering date of September 27-30th however she would be available the next weekend- October 4-7. I wanted to ask if this is something you would be interested in doing and if you are able to move the date our gathering weekend with ease? Love to you all, Yellow

Hi Sisters! I was talking with Gretchen the other day and found myself saying how much I'd like an SSR zoom. So many ripples have been happening for me since constellation work. So, we decided to co-host one! (With Katie's yes, too.) We're looking at Thurs, June 27th or Tuesday, July 2nd at 7 pm ET. Here's the link to the doodle poll to pick a date. https://doodle.com/meeting/participate/id/dJ7xNXDe Please complete the poll by Thursday. Maybe just do it right now?? ;) Love and High Fives, Meggie & Gretchen

Hey all, At my job we take turns telling brief stories on different themes. This round it's "a scary thing that happened to you in childhood." I wrote mine out to practice giving it and so I thought I'd share it with you. :) Mooove Over Mama Bear. It's Mama Cow. In the spring of my sixth grade year, my grandpa sent four of his pregnant cows to my family’s little farm in town. These cows had had difficulty calving in the past, so by putting them on our farm, my dad, who was a veterinarian, would be able to help them right away. My sister and I got to see one of them being born in the morning before school one day. It was gross and messy, but the newborn calf was so cute and we liked watching it nurse. That day, as my sister and I walked home from school, we wondered when the others would be born and if it would happen while we were at home or at school. We said to each other, let’s hurry in case another one is born this afternoon! It was a little more than a half mile home from school by the streets, but we didn’t like to walk along the highway for the last part. So we always went to my aunt’s house on the way first. We walked down her big hill and took a path she’d made for us to cut through the holler. That brought us to the railroad tracks between our house and hers. There was no more path cut for us on that side, and the trees and black raspberry canes were thick there, and there was a rusty old barbed wire fence to get past. We could have followed the railroad tracks for a bit and come out in a clear area that would take us up our driveway and past my dad’s veterinary clinic. But we wanted to hurry to the barns to see if there were any more calves. And we knew there was a rickety old wooden stile in one spot that would help us get over the barbed wire fence. So we carefully picked our way through the black raspberry canes and then carefully climbed over the stile, trying not to get poked by thorns, barbed wire, or splinters. Now we were at the bottom of the pasture and started up the hill. We had only gone a few steps when we saw a weird, bloody mess on the ground. We didn’t know what it was, but it made me think of “The Blob.” It looked scary and so we went around it and hurried up the hill. I looked up the hill and at the top was one of the cows. She raised her head and gave an alarmed and angry sound, and suddenly started charging down the hill right at us. I yelled to Susan, “Run!” and we ran for our lives back down the hill and practically dove right over the stile. We paid no mind to splinters, barbed wire, or thorns. The cow charged all the way down the hill to the fence and bawled at us. We tore through the trees to the railroad tracks, ran down to the clear area, and ran up the hill and into the clinic, gasping. Mom said what’s wrong? I told her a cow chased us. Then Mom noticed Susan’s leg was bleeding and we realized she’d cut her thigh badly on the barbed wire. She hadn’t even felt it yet. All’s well that ends well. The bloody thing we had seen was the afterbirth from one of the cows. Another calf had indeed been born that day and the new mother was not going to let two little girls get near it. Susan and I felt that perhaps my parents could have warned us about the possibility of mama cow attack. We would have taken the long way in the first place. We stayed out of the pasture while the cows and calves were with us. Susan still has a scar on her thigh from the barbed wire to remind her. From the extraordinary heart and mind of Jill Nienhiser via jnienhiser@...

Hello Sisters of My Heart - Here, as promised, is a more in-depth check-in from me. Thank you for indulging my stream-of-consciousness style here…welcome to the inside of my busy brain. I am writing this from my seat on the floor of our brand new house. Bruce and I moved to a new home about a month ago. It’s in the town of Mill valley, CA, which is just North (an 11-minute drive) of our previous home in Sausalito. I purchased the Sausalito home just about ten years ago. I lived there with Marty and Greg for four years and then Marty and Bruce for six years after that. We have all loved that house very much. And it was time to move. Bruce and I were low-key looking for our next home and then this one appeared and we were IN. The selling points of the new place (aka: The Tree House) were/are, the trees, the light, the space, the design, the privacy, the views, the vibes. It’s a stunner of a place and you are all cordially invited to come visit. It’s a sanctuary to be sure. We’ve been living here for a few weeks (time is ever strange and tricky to track!) and we are all loving it. Marty is 16 now and the stairs are tricky for him but he’s adjusting well. That guy is ever the trooper!! I feel grateful every day that he is still with us. Bruce and I are doing really well. Our communication is at an all time high and that feels great. We get into our squabbles, the origins of which remain so very consistent, but we seem to be getting out of them more quickly than before. I continue to feel deeply in love with him and supported by him, more than with any other partner for me. We are also still connecting on an intimate level, almost 7 years into our relationship, which has never happened to me before. I’m thrilled that we still find each other attractive in that way. One of my big projects right now is clearing out the old house to get the house ready to go on the market to sell. I’ve been touching every item I have ever owned, every piece of clothing, every book…. It’s like a This is Your Life of Things. I’m trying very hard to only bring items to the new house that have meaning for me currently. The Big Refresh. It’s daunting and satisfying and educational. I’m taking a lot of the lessons I learned from helping my mom disassemble our family home of 50 years to this process of moving; be mindful of what you hold on to because things take psychic energy and space and I want all that energy freed up for who I am now. Moving is such a deep spiritual dive and an opportunity to learn about who I’ve been and who I want to be moving forward. I’m missing my mom. I think of her often. Sometimes I think I have not fully grieved her loss and that I’m successfully avoiding hard feelings. She passed in November 2022 and I have yet to return to DC since her memorial service. I wonder if I’m scared of the feelings I will feel when I do go. That said, I will go soon enough..this summer I think. Doing my best to be loving and kind and patient with myself about all of it. What else? I’ve lost a bunch of weight (as has Bruce) in the last bunch of months with the help of the new magical peptides (a compounded version of manjauro) and that feels great. I have more energy, which feels great. The “food noise” is gone which is like something from a Sci-fi novel. It feels extraordinary to have a different relationship with food and cravings due to a weekly injection. My brain feels changed around food and I dig it. II’ve been weight training and dancing lots too. I’m in better shape than I have been In years. Also changing my brain is peri-menopause. The hot flashing is intense and persistent. I’m doing my best to use them as an opportunity to Surrender, because there is nothing else to do. Just ket the heat rise and the sweet fall and maybe say to the person witnessing all of this, the repairman or the grocery store clerk or the guy at the dinner party, I’m having a hot flash right now. It helps me feel less self-conscious and empowered when I name it. It’s the flashes that wake me up in the middle of the night that are the most annoying. Our new bed