Thanks for your comments. I hadn't realised how many UDP ports SDR Console uses to talk to radios. I used wire shark to monitor traffic to the radio on my LAN and forwarded all the ports I could see in use to the radio. I could then operate it from the internet but the audio quality was not good, especially on transmit, probably due to bandwidth / latency problems.
I also have an RSP1A listening to QO-100 on 739 MHz this is connected to a RPi4 with SDR Play server which talks to SDR Play client over the internet but this has the option of using an audio connection rather than full IQ and the audio quality is good with this (SDR Play client though is nowhere near as good as SDR Console). I was hoping to have a full duplex QO-100 transceiver, with remote operation, using my RPi/radioberry transceiver (with DXpatrol up / down converters from 28 MHz) + the RSP1A for listening during transmission. It does all work now but the quality is not good enough. I think I will try using a VNC set up.
Regards
Richard MW0HAT