Today's Inspiration - Shavua tov!

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Servant and Master

Said the Gerer Rabbi: "We call our prayers 'Services' to demonstrate that we are servants of the Lord. The servant owns no property except what he receives from his master; he has no anxiety concerning the future, since he relies upon maintenance by his master in return for work. In our own relations with the Creator, we should fee like the servant towards his master, without pride in our possessions, and without anxiety if we lack them."

Source: Siach Sarfei Kodesh

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Monday Night: Talking to God

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
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Day 92 – The Speakers Accomplice
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In addition to violating the prohibition against listening to loshon hora, every listener of loshon hora is, in effect, making it possible for the speaker to relate his forbidden words, and therefore is an accomplice in his sin.
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In the case of a lone listener, the prohibition before a blind person do not place a stumbling block (Vayikra 19:14) would surely apply, for included in this verse is a prohibition against causing another Jew to sin. We will see that in certain instances listening to Loshon Hora is forbidden not because of the primary prohibition but because of the prohibition against causing another Jew to sin.
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
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Non-Kosher Conversation
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If one begins speaking with Reuven concerning Shimon and in the course of conversation becomes aware that Reuven bears Shimon ill will, he should either bring the conversation to an end or divert it to some other subject. Similarly, if one begins to speak and suddenly realizes that his own words are leading toward loshon hora, he should muster his spiritual strength and abruptly change the subject — in the same way that he would spit out the food he was chewing were he to become aware that it was non-kosher. If this will cause him discomfort or embarrassment, he should bear in mind the Sages’ words: ”Better to be considered a fool all one’s days [in this world], and not be considered wicked even for a moment before the Omnipresent” (Mishnah Ediyos 5:6).
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As already mentioned, the restriction against discussing an individual with that person’s adversary applies only when one feels himself unqualified to make peace between the two. However, when one can play the role of peacemaker, it is a mitzvah to listen to each party’s grievances in order to settle their feud.

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Today's Inspiration - Shabbat shalom!

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Attachment to God

Said the Besht: "Some seek God as if He were far removed from us, and surrounded by many walls. They say (Song of Songs 3:1): 'I sought Him but I found Him not.' Had they been wise, however, they would have known that 'no space is free of Him.' They can find Him in everything? and everywhere, and they should understand that 'one who attaches himself to any part of God is as if he were attached to the All in All."

Source: Meoroth ha-Gedolim

"A TIME FOR YIDDISHKEIT" Shidduchim!!

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I came on a trip you organised 3 years ago. It's one the most meaningful and enjoyable trips I have ever been on!

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Thank you so much for a fabulous and extremely inspiring trip. Please keep me posted on all future trips.

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Thank you and your very special family for such a wonderful trip. It was an amazing Chizuk and wonderful recharge for me. Please let me know about future trips.??

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Whos ever tefillas are answered is in your Zechus.

May Hashem shower you & your family with more brachas than you can ever hold.

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?Thank you for your amazing day yesterday. Inspiring and spiritually uplifting.? Great company, lovely activity and tasty food.? Waiting for the next one.? Love Ruty xxx

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I hope you got to sleep well! You surely deserve it!!

It was such a beautiful trip and you ran it so well.

I LOVED that you kept the times and kept it all moving.

THank you again for the opportunity

Have a lovely day

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I hope you are feeling very happy today for all the zchusim that you acquired yesterday, for all the tefillos

said for individuals and Klal Yisroel ?(May they all be answered soon) and for giving us a meaningful, wonderful and enjoyable day with a lovely group of ladies!!!!

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Rebbetzin as usual explained so much and is always so listenable to!!!

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I loved being so close to the Kinneret which we saw for a long time and because of the glass painting which was such fun we all have

a tangible memento of the trip. I now have a cute little besamim bottle.

The meal was really delicious and varied -mamash gourmet!!

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I would have liked to have shared these impressions on the bus but was too tired by the end as I was lacking sleep!?

Hoping the funds raised will provide hours of Ohel Yaakov Torah learning!

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Thank you again my dear.

Get some well deserved rest.

Love

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It was an inspirational and memorable day.

I appreciate all the thought, organization and hard work that went into this.

Thank you

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It was also really nice to meet so many new faces.

I'm carrying the day with me, and please let me know about the next one!

Thank you again,

Tova

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Today's Inspiration

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The Staff of Misfortunes

Said the Radomsker: "We read (Song of Songs 1:4): 'O draw me; we will run after You.' A shepherd employs two methods to draw his sheep to him. He either whistles and they come, or he drives them with his staff, and they move forward. In the first instance, they follow him; in the second he follows them. We petition that the Lord should draw us near to Him by His voice, and we promise to follow after Him. But we do not desire that He should drive us to godliness with the staff of misfortunes."

Source: Ohel Shelomoh

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Dedicated as a z’chus for a refuah shleima for Chaim Baruch ben Chaya Mirel

SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
Day 91 – When Listening is Lowly
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Not only is speaking loshon hora a lowly act not befitting the divine image in which man was created, but to listen as someone else speaks loshson hora is lowly as well. The Torah states, Do not accept a false report (Shemos 23:1). The Chofetz Chaim is apparently of the opinion that merely paying attention to loshon hora being spoken constitutes giving it some degree of credence, and is in violation of this prohibition.
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Just as it is wrong to select the shortcomings of others as subject matter for one’s own speech, so too it is wrong for one to focus his attention on negativity being expressed by others.
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Just as it is wrong to cause harm to others by way of speech, so too it is wrong to serve as a listener as potentially harmful information is being conveyed.
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In short, derogatory or harmful speech should never earn one’s attention. Listening to loshon hora, even if one does not believe it, is in violation of Torah prohibition.
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
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The Need to Talk
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People who find themselves inclined towards melancholy feel a need to speak freely to others and are, understandably, afraid to focus themselves on developing the quality of silence. Should this be the case, one should at least accustom himself to not speak about others, whoever they might be; his friendly conversations should focus on matters of interest, and not on people of interest. When he does find it necessary to discuss others, he should be as brief as possible.
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I have heard it said regarding the great Torah genius, Rabbi Raphael of Hamburg, that he resigned his post as rabbi four years prior to his passing. From that time and on, he would ask of those who visited him that as long as they were within the confines of his home, they should not speak about other people. I have also heard regarding another leader of his generation that he was exceedingly careful never to discuss others.1
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Certainly one must be careful not to discuss a storekeeper with his competitor, nor a craftsman with other members of his craft. Such conversations often lead to loshon hora, especially when the storekeepers or craftsmen are known to bear ill will toward one another.
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This restriction applies not only to singing the storekeeper’s praises, regarding which our Sages warned: “One should never speak the praises of his fellow [excessively], for praise will inevitably lead to criticism” (Arachin 16a).2 One should refrain entirely from discussing an individual with that person’s competitor, for the listener will quite possibly steer the conversation in a direction that will allow him to vent his negative feelings. If one finds it absolutely necessary to engage in such discussion for some constructive purpose, he should keep the conversation as brief as possible; otherwise, it will inevitably lead to loshon hora.
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1. Toward the end of his life, the Chofetz Chaim was visited by someone who broached the subject of a dispute in his home town. The Chofetz Chaim interrupted him, “For years, I have avoided the sin of loshon hora. Do you wish that I now be caught in its web?’’
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2. When one praises another excessively, it is inevitable that the speaker or someone else present will point out one or more of the subject’s faults (Rashi ad loc.). See Sefer Chofetz Chaim Part I, ch. 9.

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Parshah Insight

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Shalom Friends

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Have a blessed week

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To connect with our neshamos and with Hashem, we need time to think. But our yetzer hara keeps us running, assuring us that we’re being wildly productive when effectively we're running in place.
As we begin the month of Tammuz, let’s take the time to realize that we have to stop running and start thinking, connecting, growing—and before long we'll be ready to be free once again. In Yerushalayim Habenuyah!
Good Chodesh!
Dedicated l’zecher nishmas Berel ben Hirsh z”l, by his children Dr. and Mrs. Reuven Shanik

L'zechus shidduch hagun bekarov u'b'neikol
Dedicated by anonymous

SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
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Day 90 – Shidduchim and Other Relationships – A Summary
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Returning now to our original three situations (Day 78), we may conclude that if one is aware of a negative factor that by objective standards renders the proposed relationship a mistake, he is obligated to speak up. However, if by objective standards the factor does not lead to such a conclusion, but it may adversely affect the future of the people involved, one should not volunteer information about it, but one would have to respond truthfully when questioned specifically regarding the topic under which that factor falls.
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If by objective standards the factor would have no bearing on the relationship, but it is clear that the other party would see it as an issue, one should not volunteer information about it and should suggest that the relationship be pursued.
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As a concluding note to this section, one must understand that the possible situations of constructive negative speech that could arise in the settings of family, friends, community, business, employment, education, etc. are endless. No book can possibly give explicit instructions for dealing with them all. One’s only recourse is to become fluent in the principles, develop an understanding of the concepts, and accustom himself to consulting a rav, so that he can meet the challenges that such situations bring with them.
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
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Protective Fence
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“The best medicine of all is silence” (Megillah 18a). “A protective fence for wisdom is silence” (Avos 3:17). Silence is good for the wise, and surely for the unwise. One should guard his tongue like the apple of his eye, for one’s mouth can be the source of his ruination and the movements of his lips can endanger his soul. Thus it is written, “One who guards his mouth and tongue guards his soul from tribulations” (Mishlei 21:23).
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Better to be told, “Speak! Why are you so quiet?’’ than for others to find one’s prattling burdensome and ask that he be silent.
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Scripture states: “From that which lies within your bosom [i.e. your soul], guard the portals of your mouth” (Michah 7:5). The use of the term portals in reference to the mouth is instructive. An entrance to a house must be opened when necessary, but it cannot be left open all day and all night; to do so would mean to leave the house open to thieves. Similarly, one cannot allow his mouth to be open indiscriminately.
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A person’s most prized possessions are usually kept in a special vault, hidden away in an inner room and carefully guarded. As man’s most prized function, the power of speech must be guarded with great care, and its greatest protection is the quality of silence.

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Today's Inspiration

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Why Doubt Me?

The Premislaner commented upon the verse: " I will tell of the decree: the Lord said to me: 'You are My son; this day He said: "The man who suffers poverty complains of the harsh decree against him. The Lord answers him: "You are my son.' Doe the loyal son doubts his father's ability to support him? "Have I this day begotten you?' Who supported you until now? 'Ask of Me and I will give.' Hence, why do you complain? Why doubt Me?"

Source: Esser Ataroth

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Beit Ha’am - Rechov Betzalel, Jerusalem?

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Today's Inspiration - Chodesh tov!

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Learn Service from Everything

Said the Kobriner: "The wise man learns how to serve the Lord from every phrase he hears, from every event he observes, and from every experience he shares. We read in Ecclesiastes 12:13: '(From) everything that is heard (learn how to) fear God.' "

Source: Or Yesharim

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To connect with our neshamos and with Hashem, we need time to think. But our yetzer hara keeps us running, assuring us that we’re being wildly productive when effectively we're running in place.
As we begin the month of Tammuz, let’s take the time to realize that we have to stop running and start thinking, connecting, growing—and before long we'll be ready to be free once again. In Yerushalayim Habenuyah!
Good Chodesh!
Dedicated l’zecher nishmas Berel ben Hirsh z”l, by his children Dr. and Mrs. Reuven Shanik
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L'ilui nishmas Aryeh Leib ben Ahron Yosef z"l- Rabbi Dr. Leon Green
Dedicated by the Green, Slansky, Glass and Newmark Families

SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
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Day 89 – Vital Information
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One who knows of a shidduch in the making and has negative information about one of the parties has a responsibility – in certain cases – to offer this information without waiting to be asked.
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The commandment? “Do not stand aside while your brother’s blood is shed” (Vayikra 19:16) requires one to volunteer information if he is aware that one party in a proposed match has severe physical, psychological or spiritual shortcomings, which by objective standards can be expected to interfere with the marriage, and that this information is being concealed from the other party.
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Once again, the conditions which permit speaking negatively for a constructive purpose must be fulfilled:
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(1) The information must be firsthand or clearly stated as secondhand and not verified.
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(2) It must clearly be a problem by objective standards (e.g. a debilitating disease in the person, or in the family if it is hereditary; severe psychological disorders; violent tendencies; major problems in hashkafa [outlook on basic issues of Jewish life]; an immoral lifestyle) and not a matter of personal opinion – even if one feels certain that this is not what the other party wants. It must also be clear that the information is being concealed from the other party.
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(3) If it is possible to convince the party that is concealing the information, to come forth with it, that would be preferable.
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(4) The information is not to be exaggerated and only that which is necessary may be told.
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(5) One’s intent must be to prevent a harmful situation from coming about and not to denigrate the party spoken about. Moreover, there must be a real possibility that the information conveyed will not be ignored, so that the constructive purpose will be realized.
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(6) No realistic alternative to conveying the information directly can be found.
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(7) No undue harm will be caused by informing the party of the problem. Should there be reason to suspect that the party, upon learning that it has been deceived, will denigrate the other party or seek revenge in some other way, one should not get involved.
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
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A Matter of Life and Death
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By exercising verbal restraint, one is saved from many sins: loshon hora, flattery, mockery and lying. He is also saved from verbal attack. There are numerous inestimable benefits of developing the quality of silence.
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People confide their private matters to a person who is known to guard his tongue, for he can be trusted to keep such information to himself.
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A wise man once said: “When I hear someone speak evil of me, I remain silent, for I fear that would I respond in kind, I would then hear abuses that are worse than the previous ones.’’ Whenever a person is verbally attacked and responds in kind, the result, invariably, is worse verbal attack.
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“Death and life are in the tongue’s power” (Mishlei 18:21). The tongue can cause harm in a way that the sword cannot. The sword can kill only through direct contact with its victim, while the tongue can bring about the ruination of someone who is miles away. Man was created with two eyes, two ears, two nostrils, but only one mouth, to indicate that he is obligated to limit his speech, for transgression through speech can occur quite easily, and with far-reaching consequences.

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM
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Day 88 – Matters of Opinion????????????????????????
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Subjective questions about people are most difficult to answer:
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?“Is he a talmid chacham?”? “Is she intelligent?”
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Each of these terms is relative, for at what point does a student of Torah become a “talmid chacham,” and how does one measure intelligence? Lack of a definitive barometer is a problem with most character traits as well, making accurate evaluations in these areas extremely difficult.
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Furthermore, we have seen that one may not provide information that could prevent a match from materializing unless the information provides valid basis for this. How, then, does one correctly provide information when asked?
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It is clear that it is unwise for a party to approach an acquaintance with a request for such information. In fact, the Chofetz Chaim says that such inquires warrant no response. However, one may bring such questions before a rav, rosh yeshiva, or seminary dean, etc. who has the wisdom and experience to evaluate a situation properly and offer an appropriate response. Others who are approached with such questions may direct the person to the proper authority.
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SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON
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Best of All
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Shimon his [Rabban Gamliel’s] son says: “All my days I have been raised among the Sages and I found nothing better for oneself than silence” (Avos 1:17).
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R’ Shimon is, in effect, saying: “I was reared among the Sages and had the opportunity to glean from all their precious, sacred qualities. And of all those qualities, the art of silence is most outstanding.’’
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Alternatively, R’ Shimon may have meant the following: The Sages were the wisest of men and surely did not engage in pointless conversation. Nevertheless, there was nothing, aside from speaking words of Torah, which they found more beneficial to themselves than silence.
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R’ Shimon was precise in saying: “and I found nothing better for oneself ...” Man’s corporeal existence in this world makes it virtually impossible for even the purest of souls to ensure that his every utterance is without flaw. This is why silence is so desirable.
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If such was true of the generation of R’ Shimon, whose Sages were accustomed to speaking only words of true wisdom, then what of ourselves, whose minds are preoccupied with matters devoid of substance and meaning? If one’s mouth will not be restrained by the harness of silence, then invariably it will speak in the way that it has been accustomed since one’s youth, and the loss will outweigh the gain many times over.
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