Every Human Trait

Said the Besht: “Man should learn pride, and not be proud; he should learn anger , but not feel angry. For man should be a complete personality, possessing all human traits. Does not the Torah picture God as possessing both justice and mercy?”

Source: Kether Shem Tov

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM ? Day 100 – Inquiries??????? ? In light of the above (see Day 98), if one must inquire about a person, family, community, or school in order to make an important decision, but does not want others to know what he is contemplating, he may not engage people in casual conversation with the aim of obtaining pertinent derogatory or harmful information. Unaware that his speech is constructive, the speaker is guilty of speaking loshon hora, and the listener who drew him into conversation has caused him to sin. ? Thus, when soliciting necessary information, one must make it clear to the other person that circumstances permit this and that his response, therefore will not constitute loshon hora. ? A common practice in such situations is not only to refrain from divulging the purpose of the inquiry, but also to inquire about several people at once, so as to conceal the fact that it is a particular person about whom one is seeking information. This is absolutely forbidden. The desire to protect one’s privacy does not justify irrelevant negative information and causing others to speak loshon hora. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? Love Your Fellow Jew ? Fulfillment of the mitzvah to judge one’s fellow favorably and development of the quality of shmiras haloshon both hinge on the fulfillment of “You shall love your fellow as yourself” (Vayikra 19:18). If one truly loves his fellow Jew, surely he will not speak negatively of him; to the contrary, he will seek any possible merit for his actions, as he would for himself. ? If one were to commit an act which appeared improper, and he were to learn that his action was being talked about by others, surely he would fervently hope that someone would speak up in his defense and explain that, for whatever reason, he was not at fault. This is exactly what one should do when someone else’s behavior comes under scrutiny. ? Moreover, to love one’s fellow as oneself is to help him avoid situations which would result in his suffering shame or criticism. ? Let us suppose that one finds himself for an extended period of time in a city whose customs are foreign to him. He would seek out a loyal friend in that city who could familiarize him with local customs and inform him privately when his behavior might evoke negative feelings among the city’s inhabitants. In this way, he would be forewarned of anything which could possibly cause him distress or embarrassment. One should act toward his fellow in exactly this manner. If one sees another Jew doing that which could ultimately lead to his distress or embarrassment, he is obligated to warn him of this.

Aids to a Livelihood

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Said the Koretzer: “Five things can help us to achieve a livelihood: first, regular and earnest study; second, strict honesty; third, regular prayers for sustenance; fourth, devotion of a tithe to charity; fifth, not to be extravagant or a reckless spender.”

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Source: Nofeth Tzion

Discipline from a Book

Rabbi Bunam said: “I was once grossly insulted and wept from indignation. I went over and kissed my adversary.” The rabbi was asked by his Hasidim wo tell them who dared abuse their holy leader. He took out the book, “Shevet Musar,” a work on admonition and discipline, and said: “Here is the guilty one. Read it yourselves with earnestness, and it will demonstrate to you your faults and offenses, until you, also, will weep.”

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Source: Simchat Israel

A Holy Work

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When the Berditschever received a copy of the small book, “Tanya,” by Rabbi Schneur Zalman Ladier, he exclaimed: “This is a miracle! To bring so great a God into the compass of so small a book.”

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Source: Sefer ha-Hasiduth

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM ? Day 98 – Pertinent Information???? ? The prohibition, “Do not accept a false report” (see Day 91), teaches us that loshon hora should not be listened to and must not be accepted. However, when the information being conveyed is important to know for constructive reasons, it merits one’s attention and may be listened to. Just as relating negative information l’toeles, for a constructive purpose, is not considered speaking loshon hora, so too is listening for a constructive purpose considered responsible and proper. ? Information that one may listen to includes anything that might help to prevent or correct undue harm to any individual, be it the listener, the speaker, the person spoken about, or another party. It would also include information that could help prevent or correct damage that is physical, financial, emotional or spiritual. ? It is correct to listen to a person’s claim against someone else if one thinks that he can be of help in rectifying the situation, or if the listener or someone else might be vulnerable to similar treatment by the person being spoken about. It is permissible to listen to information about a person with whom one is planning to collaborate in a joint venture, if the information is pertinent to that relationship. In all of the above instances, the information is being listened to for a constructive purpose, and hence is not considered loshon hora. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? The Day of Judgment ? The way in which an individual tends to judge others can well determine his own status as a tzaddik (righteous person) or rasha (wicked person) for all eternity. ? The Sages teach that whether or not an individual is deemed meritorious is determined by weighing the sum of his merits against his sins. The Sages further state regarding the great Day of Judgment at the time of the Resurrection of the Dead: Three Books will be opened — one for the completely righteous; one for the completely wicked; and one for those in between. The completely righteous will immediately be inscribed for eternal life; the completely wicked will immediately be inscribed for Gehinnom; and those in between will descend to Gehinnom and [after enduring a period of retribution] will then ascend (Rosh Hashanah 16b). ? If Hashem will judge an individual by the measure of strict justice, then even if that individual had performed countless good deeds through the course of his lifetime, he will nevertheless be left with very few merits by the time his judgment has ended. Many of his deeds will have been found lacking in proper detail or method, while those whose performance was wholesome might not have been accompanied by proper love of God, awe of Him, or were devoid of the joy with which a mitzvah should be performed. Thus, most good deeds will be found blemished in some way. The individual’s remaining good deeds will be far outweighed by his sins, and thus he will be deemed a rasha for eternity. ?

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