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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM Day 46 – A Last Resort? ? Condition #4: ? If, in addition to personal reproof, any other option exists that could preclude the necessity to speak negatively of someone, it must be pursued.? Negative speech, even for a constructive purpose, is lowly if it can be avoided. ? In the same vein, when speaking negatively is necessary, one must carefully calculate just how much must be related in order to achieve the desired result.? To relate any unnecessary negative information would be to speak loshon hora. ? Furthermore, even if it is clear that someone must be made aware of certain derogatory information about another person, one should choose the least blatant means by which to communicate that information.? Directing someone to where he will become aware of information on his own is preferable to expressing it verbally. ? In comparing two candidates for a position, stressing the strengths of one is often sufficient without actually articulating what the other lacks.? In all cases, the least negative course is the one to follow. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? A Timeless Message ? Remember upon whom the punishment of tzaraas was inflicted — upon the righteous Miriam, in whose merit the miraculous well poured forth water from the time the Jews departed Egypt until her death almost forty years later. She was a prophetess, as it is written, “Miriam the prophetess, the sister of Aharon ...’’ (Shemos 15:20). Her criticism was directed toward her brother, whom she loved like her very own self, and for whom she endangered her life when she stood by the riverbank when Moshe was placed in the river as an infant (ibid. ch. 2). She did not speak disparagingly of Moshe; she merely accorded him the status of other prophets.1 She did not speak in Moshe’s presence, which might have caused him embarrassment, nor did she utter her words in public. Whatever she said was spoken between herself and her righteous brother Aharon. Her intentions were purely for the sake of Heaven. Moreover, Moshe, upon being informed of her words, bore her no ill will, as it is written, “Now the man Moshe was exceedingly humble ...’’ (Bamidbar 12:1). Despite all of the above, Miriam was punished with tzaraas. ? Remember upon whom it was inflicted. ? The Torah relates, “The people did not journey until Miriam was [cured and] brought in [to the camp]’’ (Bamidbar 12:15). Miriam’s exceptional merits were not enough to allow her punishment to be deferred until the nation had arrived at their next destination, where her condition would have drawn less attention. She was punished on the way, and her disgrace became known to all. ? Remember where the episode of Miriam’s affliction occurred. ? Thus, she faulted him for not living with his wife as other prophets did. Dedications and Sponsorships Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call 845-352-3505 #113 or email lozeri@... to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM Day 45 – Reprove First ? Condition #3: ? Before speaking about a person with others, one must first discuss the issue with that person himself.? Trying to persuade the sinner to change his ways is a course which must be pursued before bringing anyone else into the picture.? (This would not apply if speaking to the sinner might make it difficult, if not impossible, to achieve the desired result through any other means.) ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? Remembrance ? Remember what Hashem, your God, did to Miriam on the way, when you were leaving Eygpt (Devarim 24:7). ? In this verse, the Torah instructs us to remember four factors in the episode of Miriam’s sin and subsequent punishment: 1) Remember what HASHEM, your God, did — remember the punishment which He inflicted. 2) Remember upon whom it was inflicted — to Miriam. 3) Remember where this occurred — on the way. ?4) Remember at which juncture in our history it occurred — when you were leaving Egypt. ? Each of the above factors is significant, and its remembrance is of great benefit. ? As mentioned above, Miriam was punished with tzaraas for speaking wrongly of her brother Moshe. The metzora, upon being declared healed by the Kohen, must undergo a purification process which includes the taking of two birds. One bird is slaughtered, while the other is set free upon the open field. The Midrash explains this as an allusion: Just as a slaughtered bird cannot return to life, so too there is no natural way for the metzora to become rid of his tzaraas; his only hope is teshuvah (repentance). And just as the bird which is set free is allowed to return to its previous way of life, so too can the metzora’s repentance result in a complete cure so that he can return to normal living among his brethren. ? As mentioned above, the tumah (impurity) of tzaraas is extremely severe. The metzora must live in solitude, his clothing rent and his hair disheveled like a mourner, unlike any other tamei (impure person). Anyone who stands under the same roof as the metzora contracts tumah.1 Moreover, the Sages liken a metzora to a dead person (Nedarim 64b).2 ? Remember what HASHEM, your God, did to Miriam... ? 1. Aside from a metzora, only a human corpse can transmit tumah in this way. 2. This lends added meaning to the above comparison to a slaughtered bird. Dedications and Sponsorships?? Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call 845-352-3505 #113 or email lozeri@... to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities

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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM Day 44 – End Result? Before relating negative information l’toeles, for a constructive purpose, one must carefully consider whether or not his words will, in fact, bring about the desired result.? Speaking negatively l’toeles is justified only if there is a reasonable chance that the desired result will be accomplished. ? This point is of particular importance when one seeks to discourage a potentially harmful friendship, business association or shidduch (marriage match).? Often, a final decision has already been made, and speaking negatively of the other party will serve no constructive purpose. ? ? SEFER SHMIRAS HALOSHON ? Miriam’s Affliction ? The Torah relates (Bamidbar ch. 12) how Miriam criticized her brother Moshe for not living with his wife after the Torah was given through him. Miriam did not realize that a man of Moshe’s humility and selflessness would not have done so unless he had been commanded to be in a constant state of readiness to receive prophecy. Miriam was punished with tzaraas, and was subsequently healed through the prayers of Moshe. ? The Torah states: “Beware of a tzaraas affliction, to be very careful and to act; according to all that the Kohanim, the Levites shall teach you ...’’(Devarim 24:8). The very next verse exhorts the Jewish people to “Remember what HASHEM, your God, did to Miriam on the way when you were leaving Egypt.’ Sifre comments: ? Why are these two verses juxtaposed? — to teach that Miriam was punished [with tzaraas] only because she spoke loshon hora. It is a kal v’chomer (a fortiori): If Miriam, who spoke against her younger brother, was punished [so severely], then how much more so one who speaks against someone greater than himself. Alternatively: If Miriam, whose words were heard by no one other than the Holy One, Blessed is He, as it is written, “And HASHEM heard” (Bamidbar 12:2), was punished [so severely] then how much more so one who speaks disparagingly of his fellow in public. ? Ramban comments: “[With this verse,] we are commanded to make known [the episode of Miriam] to our offspring and to relate it to future generations. It would have been fitting to conceal this episode so as not to speak the disgrace of the righteous; nevertheless, Scripture commands that we make it known and revealed, so that we be well versed in the prohibition of forbidden speech, which is a great sin and brings about many bad happenings, yet is transgressed frequently.’’ Dedications and Sponsorships Do you know someone who needs a refuah shleima? A shidduch? Or perhaps a meaningful yahrtzeit is approaching? As a merit for a recovery from illness or for a departed family member you can sponsor a daily email and have over 8,000 people, every day, learn and be inspired as a z’chus for your loved one. Please call 845-352-3505 #113 or email lozeri@... to sponsor or for more information on other sponsorship opportunities