Because I love Deb Lewis’s facility with twisting English into balloon dogs if she feels like it, I asked her to write something with parts I provided. So it’s not “Deb Lewis writing” in the best sense, but when I put it on the page where it will live, I will link to my Deb Lewis collection for sure. :-)

Some of you will probably see right away which page of mine this is destined for. Maybe (I’m thinking) I will build links into the code of that page and then hotlink the heck out of this:

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Dear Sandra,

I struggled with your request for this intro. It's been a real battle. Left to my own devices, I wouldn't have catered to your every whim. I'm not some version of a short order cook, after all. I shouldn't have to be at your beck and call. I'm not your slave. I don't owe you anything. The world doesn't revolve around you. It's like you want everything handed to you on a silver platter. As if you have to be waited on hand and foot. Well, I suppose there’s no sense in throwing a fit. I'll finish what I started.

And about your readers, they're glued to their screens, taking the easy way out. They've turned into zombies. You could talk until you're blue in the face, but you'll never be able to do enough. If you give them an inch, they'll take a mile. They are manipulative, and you need to teach them you are not their puppet. You might have to resort to bribery to get them to stop fussing and fighting. They've seriously got the gimmes. You could literally stuff good information down their throats, and they'd still be bouncing off the walls, all hyped up. You could leave them to fend for themselves but then they'd be at each other's throats. They really feel if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

This will spoil your appetite for helping others, but it serves you right. I'm at my wit's end. Whatever. You do you. Just remember, all things in moderation.

Namaste
Deb
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So fun!!

Sandra

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-=-Can I write fluffy responses here?-=-

No! Please don’t! But this isn’t fluffy:

-=-That was so good it made me laugh out loud multiple times!!! It is so delicious to witness wit and skill displayed with flair! (And the description of twisting english into balloon animals was also very yummy).-=-

Praise of Deb Lewis is earned and good, and people should read more Deb stuff here:


Or search around in this forum, and if you find great Deb-writing that I didn’t save, send it to me. :-)

I suppose I opened myself up for fluff by leaving a mystery. :-)

What Deb wrote is for
Phrases to Hear and Avoid

What it seems (reasonably, I see) that it could be about is


Deleted fluff posts

I know both of those have some garbage in the text now. My browser host company “new improved” and now curly quotes and emdashes have turned to gobbledy-code. Gradually, if I live long enough, I will fix them all.

So many years under the bridge (to use but ruin a cliche)…

I also have the collection of supportive messages that aren’t really supportive.


And (though it’s not added to as much as it used to be, I found one in my notes this morning I need to add… “If I let…”


Does anyone know the negative space personality theory / comment about people being the space between their friends, experiences, influences … and I don’t even know if it was an Eric Erikson quote or something from a movie or what. :-) It seems perhaps that someone who read those four pages and determinded not to do, say or write anything that could contribute to any of them would right then and there be a better person, more thoughtful, better parent and all that.

Those last three, I made to have a link to send when I reject a post. “Phrases” is for people to consider that they might be parroting what they’ve heard, rather than thinking clearly and personally and then expressing their own real thoughts. I think some people and personalities find that easier than others, but I also think that a personality that cannot, at all, stop speaking in the phrases and voices of older relatives or the last friend she talked to will find it difficult to unschool successfully.

Sandra

It’s up and operational!

Have fun. :-)

Sandra

This is two years old, but still as useful as ever.? I am still grateful to Deb and a bit giddy that she did me this favor.? ?I DID hot-link it fully, and I think the links might survive here.

Here's what I wrote when it was new:? "Because I love Deb Lewis’s facility with twisting English into balloon dogs if she feels like it, I asked her to write something with parts I provided. .... ...?and then hotlink the heck out of this:??

Ah... if the links don't work from here, though, please play with them where they live:

https://sandradodd.com/phrases

In October, 2018, I asked Deb Lewis to create an introduction to this page, and received this response:

Dear Sandra,

?with your request for this intro. It's been a real?.?, I wouldn't have?. I'm not some version of a?, after all. I shouldn't have to be?.?. I don't??anything.??It's like you want everything?. As if you have to be?. Well, I suppose there's no sense in?. I'll?.

And about your readers, they're?, taking??out. They've turned into?. You could talk??but you'll never be able?. If you?. They are?. You might have to??to get them to stop?. They've seriously got?. You could literally stuff good information?, and they'd still be?. You could leave them??but then they'd be?. They really feel?.

This will??for helping others, but?. I'm?. Whatever.??Just remember,?.

Namaste
Deb

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To read more by Deb in her unsolicited and very own words, here's a collection:?

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Sandra