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There is a rich but obscure page with nine good questions and my advance-answers, before a visit to speak to a group in Kuranda, in Queensland.? Unschoolers in Cairns had organized it, so I named it that before I knew "Kuranda."? :-)

I think it's a good read, and has lots of links, so if you or someone you know is new to unschooling, or just feel like seeing if you could guess my answers or something, here it is!? Have fun. :-)

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Part of someone's question, from that page, and my response:

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In the 'unschool world' technology is a huge battle. I see so many families trying 'no limits' and then, in despair, having to reclaim control over this aspect of their children's lives…

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That last paragraph is rich with problems, from a radical unschooling point of view.
In a way, clearing ideas that are roadblocks from one's thoughts and language is the main tool of deschooling.

In the 'unschool world' technology is a huge battle.
"Huge battles" are indicative of adversarial relationships. If you can learn to be your child's partner, rather than his adversary, the battle dissipates.

I don't believe in an unschooling world. I know the writer used quotation marks (In the 'unschool world' …).

There is not a different world for unschoolers to live in. In the life of a radical unschooling family where things are working well, technology is a huge blessing and benefit. If technology is a huge battle, that family is not unschooling well, and not having good relationships with their children.

I see so many families trying 'no limits' and then…
Two problems: "trying" and "no limits." If kids know the parent is only "trying" something, he will certainly take all he can get, desperately and in a frenzy.

"No limits" is not something any family should believe in, or promise their children The world has limits of all sorts. Parents don't need to add to that, but parents can't guarantee "no limits." They CAN give children lots of choices and options.

Gradual change would have helped.?
Saying yes a thousand little times is better for everyone than one big confusing "Yes forever, don't care, OH WAIT! Take it back."?

And the worst, the "have to" idea.?
What you think you "have to" do makes you powerless and frustrated. What you choose to do is empowering, and should be done thoughtfully and sweetly.

I don't keep stats or follow-ups, but I know at least three families from that day are still unschooling.? I hope it's more, but three is good. :-)

Being a collector of questions and answers makes my website larger than anyone can or needs to read, but it might make it easier for people to find information with a search.? I won't always be around to re-discover and share the obscure good parts.

Don't forget this page!?

http://sandradodd.com/search

The top search is my website (which now also includes a lot of the archives of this group, which was rescued before I knew we could move to groups(.io) here.??

The second box includes several other sources, too.

I hope everyone reading here will help others when opportunity and willingess allow. :-)

And I hope people won't feel any pressing obligation to help others, too, honestly—somewhere in there, I'm hoping for maximum happiness for lots of unschoolers.

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Sandra

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